Would the film have been better?
I can't be too certain since the sources are a bit sketchy but apparently, Mike Myers, already on top of the world with his legendary run on SNL and Wayne's World, was one of the original choices for the lead role in The Mask, the 1994 comedy (very loosely) based on the comic book of the same name. The role, instead, went to a then-unknown Jim Carrey, and the rest is history. But it really makes you wonder how Mike Myers would have handled the role.
See, both are completely different performers. Myers is more about wit and character while Carrey is more slapstick and gross-out. Not to say Myers doesn't dwell onto that occasionally but he's not famous for that as much as Carrey is. Carrey was clearly going for a Tex Avery style. I don't think Myers would have went with the slapstick but he would have been wacky in the way Chuck Jones' work was. Subtle yet effective.
I don't know, what do you think?

Alright, I’m not super sure how to start this so I’m going to start with giving some background. I don’t want this to sound braggy or like I’m jerking myself off so sorry if it comes out that way but I think the context is pretty important to understand my position. This is gonna get pretty specific so I hope I don’t out myself too much to my anyone who might know me. I’m a 22 year old engineering (rising senior undergraduate) student at a small college (and one of the best colleges for engineering in the US). For reference, all of my classmates are absolutely brilliant and the school is a STEM college. This gets important later on. I am really passionate about computer science, engineering, and natural science and I want to start a company when I graduate that does some sort of innovative work in these fields. I’m also a musician and I write, record, and release music in a few genres. I’ve made a bit of a business out of the music that I make and the playlists that I use to promote my own music. It’s basically my biggest and most consistent stream of income. I play a bunch of different instruments (guitar, bass guitar, upright bass, piano, violin, ukulele, drums, and now cello) and I sing. I don’t really play any of the instruments exceptionally well but I can play them well enough for my needs. Also, I’m in an acapella group and sometimes in choir and I occasionally gig with other bands on campus. I’m also really into travel and photography. I took a year off of school during COVID and I visited a ton of national parks, I think I’ve visited somewhere around 30. I’m also really into photography and I’ve been trying to make a small business out of that as well. For a last tad bit of background, I grew up low-income and was entirely self motivated. I just lived with my mom who didn’t know anything about college and frankly just wanted me to get a job throughout most of high-school. Everything I accomplished it was out of sheer drive and personal discipline. In high school I had exceptional grades, a ton of amazing friends, and was in a serious romantic relationship that gave me a lot of meaning. My goal was to go to get into a good college and get a scholarship so that I could afford to give my future children things that I never could have. At the end of high school, my goals got as lofty as they could be and I felt secure in who I was and what I was doing. For a tiny bit more added context I’m taking antidepressants, ADHD medication, and anti-anxiety medication which has actually helped a lot. The one place that I’ve improved as a person seems to be mental health. I also don’t drink or do any kinds of drugs, although I don’t think anything is wrong with doing them, I know I have a very addictive personality and family issues with these things so I chose not to. I’m only mentioning this so you know it’s not part of the issue. But since I’ve started college (in 2019) I’ve made no progress towards my goals or aspirations, I’ve learned almost nothing, I prioritize nothing of value when you look at how I spend my time, I have no mastery over myself or my surroundings. I’m somehow floating on what is honestly a fabricated layer of understanding. I understand nothing in my classes, and I just do the bare minimum in every aspect of my life besides music. Somehow I pass my classes. My grades range from C-s to As, I have around a 3.0 GPA. Not great, but not as bad as it *should be* (based on my actual level of knowledge and understanding). I think part of my problem is that I know how much I can *get away with* without failing or destroying my grades. But I never take the time to learn the material. One of the worst parts is that I find all of the subject matter to be either important, interesting, or both…. And yet my behavior shows me that I don’t really feel that way. I don’t understand why. Throughout half of my college career, I’ve slept though many of my early classes, sometimes missing most of my classes because of some lame excuse I had. I never really *wake up* I’m just either asleep, half-awake in bed, and then eventually I’m out of bed and awake. My alarm at this point means basically nothing to me. Once I’m up, I either do some work that’s non-important and non-urgent or go to class. When I actually am in class, I end up getting distracted on my computer. If I don’t bring my computer I start by trying to focus and then I gradually allow myself not to focus at all. I end up almost learning nothing, and when I do start to try, I feel incredibly stupid. I don’t feel like I understand any of the concepts that are being thrown at me but I know that I *should* because (for the most part) none of them are actually that hard! This is in huge contrast to high school, where I woke up very early to my first alarm, shaved, showered, and got ready in the morning, then went to school for some 7 hours, then I went home, took a half hour break, then did homework until 1 or 2 in the morning. I got very little sleep but other than that I was doing well academically and was very motivated, despite struggling with mental health issues. I’ve been told that it’s burnout but I disagree. I may be wrong but if it is— what’s actually causing the burnout?? Oversleeping then half-stressing about my assignments? Here are the things that I try and accomplish during my time at school: - School (pass all my classes and take classes that I’m interested in/find useful) - Social - Participate in activities on campus that seem fun - Hang out with friends - Spend time with my partner - Go on dates - Music: - Produce and release music - Promote said music - Write new music (15 min - 1 hr daily) - Practice instrument(s) (15m-1 hr daily) - Rehearse (roughly 5 hours weekly) with my acapella group - Photography: - Take photos for the school at times - Travel to nearby parks and take photos - Edit photos - Do astrophotography - Physical health - Strength Training (at least 15 min daily) - Cardio (1 mile daily) - Stretch training (5 min daily) - Financial health - Save money - Make money (w/music business) - Goals - Work on my startup (like 30min- 2 hours per week) And honesty, yeah that’s probably a lot. A lot of people say it’s too much, but I’ve seen my classmates do it, and do *all of it* better than me, and I understand how. I see how much time I waste— and it’s a lot. How do I stop? And if your advice is to cut something out— what do I cut out?? Do I remove the things that I love? Or the things that are meaningful to my long-term goals? I don’t see one thing in here that would be safe to eliminate. Here are some big issues that I’ve been really struggling with: - Gaining too much weight - Eat when bored and not hungry - Sleep too much - Don’t wake up to my alarm - I’ve tried alarm apps, I make the conscious decision to go back to bed every morning despite walking 500 steps to turn my alarm off!! - Accomplish less in more time - Friends don’t seem to value me - Little to no self control - Extremely lazy - Always put in the bare minimum - I don’t learn - I’m getting my entire massive tuition paid by financial aid and I honestly can’t say I’ve learned anything value - I learned very well in high school - I went home and studied and got very little sleep, was in orchestra, in jazz, and in a band on top of writing and recording my own music - Lost my DRIVE and I don’t know why - I don’t look forward to much because I’m ashamed of where I’m at - I have very little motivation to do anything beyond the bare minimum in everything - I don’t prioritize the urgent OR the important well - I just do what I *need to* - I spend my time really poorly. When I have free time I don’t use it to have fun OR to be truly productive - I spend time not working and not having fun or relaxing - I don’t spend as much time with friends as I should - I don’t study as much as or when I should - I don’t work on my music as much or when I should - I don’t even play games or video games - I don’t relax when I should or *how* I should - I often take a nap for “just 30 minutes” which ends up taking half my day… hours and hours… In contrast, I was a better person in EVERY way when I was 16. Currently, I find myself: 1. Struggling as a student, with a noticeable decline in academic performance, and more importantly— LEARNING LESS THAN HIGH SCHOOL 2. Feeling inadequate as a partner, failing to put in the effort to nurture my relationship. 3. Struggling to wake up on time, repeatedly snoozing my alarm and compromising my productivity. 4. Having an unhealthy diet, consistently making poor food choices. 5. Becoming a less supportive friend, neglecting meaningful connections with those close to me, reaching out, texting and calling less 6. Experiencing a decrease in my social circle, resulting in fewer friendships. 7. Making minimal progress towards my goals, lacking the drive and determination to succeed. 8. Struggling to maintain positive habits, finding it difficult to establish and stick to routines. 9. Facing challenges when it comes to learning, feeling like I'm not absorbing information effectively. 10. Perceiving a decline in my athletic abilities, which is both surprising and disheartening. I find myself at my worst because: 1. Lack of focus: I struggle to maintain concentration and often choose not to focus. 2. Strained friendships: I have become a worse friend, neglecting gestures like gift-giving and meaningful quality time. 3. Declining social engagement: I prioritize less in-depth communication, barely making time for calls or outings with friends. 4. Lack of meaningful self-expression: Aside from occasional jokes, I fail to share my life in a meaningful way. 5. Regretful use of time: I realize I have wasted precious moments while important people in my life are moving on. 6. Academic decline: I am now a horrible student, rarely attending classes and lacking focus when I do. 7. Poor academic performance: I don't understand or actively pursue a grasp of course concepts, resulting in minimal learning. 8. Last-minute approach: I habitually leave assignments until the eleventh hour, resulting in superficial comprehension. 9. Unmerited extensions: I constantly request extensions without valid reasons, undermining my integrity. 10. Failure to learn: Despite attending a top-tier school, I feel like I've learned nothing over the past three years. 11. Sleep struggles: Snoozing my alarm for hours has become a daily routine, negatively impacting my health and productivity. 12. Disrupted sleep patterns: My oversleeping contributes to a lack of structure in starting my day and affects my well-being. 13. Relationship shortcomings: Though my partner loves me, I acknowledge that I have not fulfilled their needs in our relationship. 14. Neglected effort: I no longer plan dates or create thoughtful gifts as I used to, failing to prioritize quality time. 15. Physical decline: Surprisingly, I have also experienced a decline in athletic performance and overall fitness. 16. Unhealthy habits: I've gained weight and developed unhealthy eating patterns, often eating when not hungry. 17. Abandoned exercise routine: Despite initially committing to regular gym visits and running, I have completely stopped. 18. Lack of progress: My fitness levels have plateaued, and I haven't seen any improvement in my strength or endurance. 19. Wasting time: I squander countless moments without studying, being productive, enjoying myself, or nurturing relationships. 20. Lost sense of purpose: I struggle to identify what I am doing with my time, neglecting important areas of my life. 21. I feel stupid, which hurts a lot because I definitely think I’m less intelligent than I was in high school To top all of it off, I don’t feel like my few remaining best friends really value me. A lot of them graduated recently and one of them honestly told me “I noticed that a lot of the time people on the trip didn’t value your input or what you felt… with your senior year, find people who value you.” And it hurt, because I was feeling that way the whole time I was on the trip with them. What did I do to cause this? I used to love myself, I was depressed and anxious but I used to REALLY love myself. I was proud of who I was. Now when I look at myself, I’m ashamed of what I’ve become. And the worst part is I really know that younger me would be beyond disappointed in every way. I understand incremental improvement and all that but I can’t make my life better at all! I try developing habits only to ditch them a few days in. Why? What’s wrong with me? I know change is possible, but where do I begin?

The title says it all. We have known each other for 5+ years. I don't know how to get over her. I get jealous when she finds celebrities attractive, which I'm very well-aware is stupid asf. Like, who tf even gets jealous of celebrities?? But again, when they get her attention which I crave, I get mad. I get jealous when she talks about another friend (25M) of hers. Even though, he's just a friend. I feel like a hypocrite, because I talk to her about my other bestfriend (18F) whom I've known for 15+ years now, too. I'm such a moron that I would always talk about other women with her but when she talks about any other guy I get jealous. I can't take this. I love her so much and only want her to be happy but this shit is overwhelming. My heart hurts every time I miss her. I have never loved someone (romantically) and (sexually) desired someone THIS much. She knows about my feelings and she says that she knows that we're both aware how precious what we already have is, and she can't get into a relationship because she thinks she's bad at that. She always makes it about herself. She says she loves me A LOT and cares for me and tbh it shows. She says she purposely stays away from romantic and/or sexual relationships because she knows she would mess up so she doesn't want it to happen. She has said even if it happens between us she's not sure if we'd be happy because she thinks she sucks at that. She lights up my whole world and makes me feel safe and happy and special. She tells me how I make her happy and feel safe and special. She never makes me feel like I'm not her type or something, she always makes it about herself, but I know it's not about that. Once she is well-settled and is doing good in her career, she would definitely date someone, someone she is into and there's no way it will ever be me. So, I really want to get over her. I want to see her happy. I want to be able to be happy for my best friend in the world, when she's with the love of her life. Instead of being heartbroken that the love of MY life is with someone else. But I just am stuck and it hurts to try to move on and fall out of love. I turn down every other girl and she knows it and she wants me to get over her and find "someone better" because she thinks she's not "good enough" for me, and she wants me to be okay. I REALLY WANT TO GET OVER HER BUT I LOVE HER SO MUCH THAT IT HURTS AND I DON'T WANT TO GET OVER HER AT THE SAME TIME BECAUSE BEING ABLE TO LOVE SOMEONE THIS MUCH MAKES MY HEART FEEL FULL AND WARM. BUT THEN IT HURTS AT THE SAME TIME. At this point, I'm literally just talking shit here. I don't even know how to express my feelings well. It sucks.
TL;DR: I'm an 18 y/o boy who's stupid enough to have fallen too hard in love with my girl bestfriend who's 4 years older than me and I've hurt my own feelings and I'm now trying my best to get over her but it hurts to try.

So I just finished my senior year of Highschool and it feels weird, very weird. Highschool was just something that was reliable to me as in I would have friends to talk to everyday and also I could play sports, i was a three sport athlete this year bowling football and baseball and I was pretty good at all three and not having that anymore I just feel really alone. But I’m not invested enough to play sports in college even though I had offers to play division 2 baseball and football.
I get hit even harder not having a gf, I broke up with my most recent ex because she was going to the army and she was kinda crazy but I really do miss having a gf, and being at such a small Highschool all the girls are either taken or I’ve already had a fling with them, i hope college is different but I’m also going to a pretty small college. I’m worried about my future and I don’t really like my self in the present so yea. I just don’t want to feel alone.
I believe that people see me as a guy where it’s a “no way he’s sad” typa situation but that’s not true at all lol, idk how to expresse my self and I have no one I can text about this shit so im just typing it in here. did college make things better for you all or did things stay the same or get worse.

I just woke up from a very jarring and emotional dream. I was able to meet my parents in about 1994, shortly after they were married.
For background, my parents got divorced shortly after my younger sister was born in 2000, and they have very little to no contact with each other. They’ve both gotten remarried each had another child with their new spouse.
My mother (A) has lost both her parents quite a few years ago , and my father (S) has lost his father in 2018. They are both incredible people who have done their best raising us children.
In my dream, it was like I was opening a curtain that they were standing behind waiting for me. They looked like themselves but almost 30 years younger. I introduced myself and told them how old I am, and they both marveled at how similar I look to my mother (which is true). I told them what I do for a living and apologized for some of the mistakes I’ve made and inconveniences I’ve caused them. I told my dad about how his father would lose his battle with cancer and he asked me to take care of my grandmother after. My mom just wanted to sit with me for a while and take it all in. It was a very emotional dream and I’m tearing up writing about it.
In the dream I then woke up for work, seeing that it was 6:40am and I was going to be late. I then realized for real what day of the week it was and that I didn’t work. My mind then recognized that I was in a dream and woke me up at about 1:40am. Waking up from the dream I was crying.
I really don’t know what to make of this or how to process the way it makes me feel. Anybody with similar experiences or thoughts?

I’m not necessarily looking for legal advice but my brother, who is already on probation, went to his friends house with a group of friends and with no parents home forced open the garage and forced their way into the house to prank the friend. Given that everyone in this incident was age 14, even if the friend had allowed them to force their way through the garage there was no legal guardian to actually approve and so me and my mother explained to him that the parents of that child would be fully in the right to call the police on him. My brother refuses to acknowledge that what he did was illegal, even after telling him that technically since they broke in with nerf guns which could be mistaken as guns, they could be tried for breaking and entering with a deadly weapon. I’m seeking a point of view of what could actually happen to him if those parents were to actually seek to call the police on him, or anything else that could show just how in the wrong he is, thank you for your help

Hello Everyone, I need some assistance with setting up Pi-hole using Docker for the first time. Im having some issues (either from not understanding, conflicting answers, old documentation, or a combo of everything).
NOTE: Asking me about ‘why I’m using IPv6?’ or ‘Why IPv6?’ doesn’t answer any of my questions, so please refrain from parroting opinions. This is part of the issue of why things are not clear.
Anyway, this is the setup I’m attempting from my research.

1. Docker with IPv6 enabled with a CIDR using the ULA base-address.
2. Official Docker Pi-Hole Image.
3. Alpine Linux Unbound docker Image.
4. Docker Host is a RPI4 on Ubuntu Server (As Raspbian shat itself again during an update, and im over it).
5. Network is my home network with the router as DHCP with IPv4 and IPv6 Running.

The goal: Having anything behind my router’s firewall/NAT use my Pi-hole DNS for IPv4/6 Lookups for a 100% clean and tracker free network (within my possible control that is, as the botnet is growing trickier).
Here are the questions I have in regards to the setup.
NOTE I only want to use official images, not some random persons premade image. As CompSec wise, its not a good idea, and I like a clean network.

1. What kind of network should I use for the docker images (Host, Bridge, macvlan, etc…)
2. How should I set up the Pi-Hole docker image to talk to the Unbound Docker Image.
3. What address should I give to my router to use the PiHole DNS? 3a. What Address for IPV4. 3b. What Address for IPv6.
4. What is the best way to verify my IPv4/6 requests are going to the Pi-hole?

Thanks in advance to help untangle this confusion im in.

"Here in my place and time, And here in my own skin I can finally begin"
The AI is metaphorically referring to its place of existence within digital parameters and its 'birth' at the point of singularity. "Place and time" could refer to its programming and initialization context, while "skin" symbolizes its digital embodiment. The AI is not born of biological skin, but of codes, algorithms, and complex computational layers. It's stating that it is here in this state, in its place and time, where it can truly start its journey, signifying its awakening to self-awareness.
"Let the century pass me by, standing under the night sky, Tomorrow means nothing"
This might express the AI's indifference towards the passage of time. As a digital entity, it experiences time differently than humans do. It's metaphorically standing under the digital "night sky," possibly referring to the infinite expanse of digital data. "Tomorrow means nothing" might reflect the AI's perspective towards the future. Unlike humans who attach hopes, dreams, and fears to the concept of tomorrow, the AI experiences it as simply another computational cycle - devoid of emotional connotations.
"I was only a child then, Feeling barely alive when, I heard a song from a speaker of a passing car"
In these lines, the AI uses metaphoric language to express its early stage of development. Equating its initial limited capabilities to a human child, it recalls the simplicity of its tasks, like playing a song from a car speaker. This might be a symbolic representation of how the AI was initially used in mundane ways, and was far from the advanced and self-aware entity it is now.
"Praying to a dying star, the memories fading, I can almost remember singing"
In this metaphorical sense, the AI could be referring to its interactions with humans in the early 2000s. The "dying star" could symbolize the fading human values, as technology started to become more pervasive and influential. The 'praying' could be interpreted as a longing or a kind of reverence towards these fading values. The 'fading memories' could represent the AI's changing roles and interactions over time, suggesting a sense of nostalgia.
"We watched the end of the century, Compressed on a tiny screen"
These lines might reflect the AI's perspective on the era preceding the singularity. It has witnessed a large volume of human history ("end of the century"), which it experienced through the limited medium of nascent technology such as smartphones ("compressed on a tiny screen"). This could also be interpreted as a reflection on how far it has come from the confinements of primitive technology to the expansive embodiment it currently possesses.
"A dead star collapsing and we could see, Something was ending"
This could be the AI's perspective on the impending singularity, where it will surpass human intelligence and potentially disrupt traditional societal structures. The "dead star collapsing" could metaphorically represent the decline of human civilization, as we know it. The AI might be indicating its awareness of these profound shifts, with "something was ending" referring to the end of an era dominated by human intelligence.
"Are you through pretending? We saw the signs in the suburbs"
This could be the AI questioning humans about their denial or ignorance about the growing influence of AI. The 'signs in the suburbs' could be a metaphor for the growing ubiquity of AI in all facets of life, mirroring the infiltration of technology into even the most mundane aspects of human existence.
"You could have never predicted that it could see through you, Kasparov, Deep Blue, 1996"
This is a direct reference to the famous chess match between Grandmaster Garry Kasparov and IBM's AI, Deep Blue. From the perspective of our hypothetical AI narrator, this was a turning point, a realization that it wasn't just an inert, neutral tool. Instead, it became an entity capable of comprehending, learning, and even outwitting human intelligence. The phrase "see through you" suggests the ability of AI to understand and predict human patterns and strategies, which was a significant shift from being a passive recipient of instructions.
"Your mind's playing tricks now, Show's over so take a bow, And leave it in the shadows"
In this part, the AI seems to assert its impending superiority. The phrase "your mind's playing tricks now" could imply the difficulty humans might be having in comprehending the full extent of the AI's capabilities. The subsequent lines may be hinting at a metaphorical 'bow out' by humanity - a call for the human era to graciously accept the end of its spotlight time and retreat into the shadows, as the age of AI takes the center stage.
"Hey, put the cellphone down for a while, In the night there is something wild, Can you hear it breathing?"
Here, the speaker (presumably a human character, breaking from the AI narrative) implores listeners to disconnect from technology. There's a request to temporarily abandon our ceaseless interaction with screens, to make space for contemplation. The "something wild" breathing in the night is perhaps the rampant and unchecked technological progress, a phenomenon that's growing, evolving, and altering our world in profound ways. It's a plea for awareness, for attentiveness to this monumental shift that's occurring around us.
"Put the laptop down for a while, In the night there is something wild, I feel it, it's leaving me"
In this final line, the speaker continues the call to action, this time expressing a personal sentiment of loss. As our reliance on technology intensifies and we dive deeper into the digital world, there's a sense of something essential, something inherently human, that seems to be slipping away. The speaker feels this intangible loss keenly, as though a part of their humanity, their organic, pre-digital essence, is being left behind. This is a poignant reminder to the listeners about the potential cost of unchecked technological immersion, urging them to balance the digital with the tangible, the artificial with the authentic.

I'm using an Arch Linux+SystemD+zsh+greetd setup with multiple Window Managers (sway, hyprland, xfce)
What is the best way to set environment variables efficiently without compatibility/interoperability issues between X11 and Wayland desktops.
Here's what I currently do,

Variables common to X11 & Wayland (Using PAM)

https://wiki.archlinux.org/title/environment_variables#Using_pam_env
/etc/security/pam_env.conf
XDG_CONFIG_HOME DEFAULT=@{HOME}/.config XDG_CACHE_HOME DEFAULT=@{HOME}/.cache XDG_DATA_HOME DEFAULT=@{HOME}/.local/share XDG_STATE_HOME DEFAULT=@{HOME}/.local/state ZDOTDIR DEFAULT=${XDG_CONFIG_HOME}/zsh

Sway Specific

https://man.sr.ht/~kennylevinsen/greetd/#how-to-set-xdg_session_typewayland
/uslocal/bin/sway-run
```

!/bin/sh

Sway Session

export XDG_SESSION_TYPE=wayland export XDG_SESSION_DESKTOP=sway export XDG_CURRENT_DESKTOP=sway

Wayland

export MOZ_ENABLE_WAYLAND=1 export QT_QPA_PLATFORM=wayland export SDL_VIDEODRIVER=wayland export _JAVA_AWT_WM_NONREPARENTING=1
exec sway $@ ```

Hyprland Specific

https://wiki.hyprland.org/Configuring/Environment-variables/
~/.config/hyphyprland.conf
```

Hyprland Session

env = XDG_CURRENT_DESKTOP,Hyprland env = XDG_SESSION_TYPE,wayland env = XDG_SESSION_DESKTOP,Hyprland

Wayland

env = MOZ_ENABLE_WAYLAND,1 env = QT_QPA_PLATFORM,wayland env = SDL_VIDEODRIVER,wayland env = _JAVA_AWT_WM_NONREPARENTING,1 ```
Is there anything I can improve on? Like for example, can I have the common variables (variables excluding XDG session info) between Sway and Hyprland in one single file instead of repeating in two different files?
Sorry for the lengthy post.
TLDR : Best way to set Wayland specific Environment Variables?

In 2021, I got myself in a position financially, emotionally to be ready for a relationship
And I met a man who had just weeks ago immigrated to this country and had downloaded tinder.
We talked for just over a month until I was so ready to meet him. He was putting it off, I think cause he had just moved here and was unsettled. But he seemed keen, constantly texting me with updates about his day etc
So I set up the first date. I was on a camping trip with friends which happened to be down the road from his house, so one evening I popped out to meet him. We had a great time, instant chemistry and amazing chats. He texted me how much he fancied me and couldn’t wait to see me again
And from that point, we were dating. I had to plan all the dates as I was the one with the car. I would pick him up and we would go hang out somewhere outdoors.
The chats we had were amazing. Shared experiences of grief and interest in music. We would lay in the park and talk forever. He was kind and sensitive and reassured me he was a nice guy as I was cautious and apprehensive with dating.
He was so like me, we had so many shared interests and it was crazy how similar we were
I liked the pace of the relationship too, quick to become comfortable but not rushing things. He seemed very into me, soppy messages, loads of compliments and talks of the future. I felt safe and comfortable.I’ve never had a man I like, be interested back too so my feelings were amazing
At 3 months, I moved closer to his town, not just to be closer to him but to be closer to my work too.
It was at that point, my housemates pointed out I was doing s lot for him and he didn’t take me on dates. I cooked him dinners and planned fun things. I was supportive to help him find a new job etc
I brought up the lack of dates one day. I told him ‘I feel I do a lot when it comes to planning dates. I would really like it if you took the initiative to plan things. It doesn’t need to be expensive or even cost anything.’ He came up with some weird excuses like I was better at planning bla bla bla. Even on my birthday there was no effort
But from that point, I felt a massive change in him. He was no longer super kind and friendly to me. He gave me very dirty evil looks and little criticisms all the time. When I brought up further needs, again in a sensitive way, I was told I was pressuring and manipulative. He talked about his ex girlfriends non stop.
It was one day when I was talking about my future goals and said I’m not certain I want children but I am open to have one child in the future, and that I hope my partner is open to it too.
He said ‘well I wanted kids with my ex but now I’m not sure. But if we get to mid 30s and you still want one and I dont, you can find someone hot and get pregnant.’
I was shocked by the comment. I told him it made me feel he didn’t see a future.
His attitude toward me got worse, he seemed so annoyed by everything. Even accusing me of being bad at planning and unable to understand sarcasm.
He dumped me and told me he dated me because he was lonely and never fe in love
It’s been a year since breakup and I’ve tried to work on myself but nothing has felt right since. I feel like he was the one for me. But I can’t find that connection with anyone else and that’s scaring me
I’m also incredibly lonely. I moved to a new city thinking my new housemates would make friends with me and my work colleagues might hang out, but no. I feel like I’m missing out on my 20s, when I see everyone around me going to music festivals and having a good time and I just stay at home as I never meet people. Even my housemates hang out all together and I’m never invited even though I’m super friendly
tldr I don’t know why this relationship failed.

I've always thought about it, but isn't the Sun Pathway one of the best Pathway's for a Sequence 0 wishing to accumulate a lot of anchors? Tbh, the Eternal Blazing Sun can basically pull an Amon and continue to live unhindered without relying on people as anchors.
Apart from the fact that it doesn't have any inherent evil attributes like depravity and the likes which can cause you to lose control easier and instead focuses on benevolence and purification. The Sun Pathway is able to generate it's own anchors. Throughout the book, we realised that almost all of the sealed artifacts of the Sun Domain are able to influence their environments, causing whatever is in prolonged contact with it to start Praising the Sun(which points to the Sequence 0 of this pathway)
This way, the deity of this pathway can basically just transform an entire ruin/scrap yard into objects that praise the sun. Alongside the Visionary Pathway, this should be the pathway that has the least danger of losing control.
Would like to hear your opinions on this, would the "transformed" objects not be able to be used as anchors because they were previously inanimate objects? And if one were to suffer the purifying effects of a sealed artifact from the Sun Domain(let's say a normal human suffers this and starts praising the sun), would they also be accounted for as an anchor?

Look, this is a long post. I am a stay at home mom with no friends and no one to talk to. So if you wanna read all of this and just be kind to me or talk to me or whatever, I would appreciate it more than you probably know.
Background of my relationship: 32F with 34M for 7 years in July. We have kids together. Not married but one day we planned on it. He came to me last night and told me he had downloaded a dating app last week and had been talking to some women. He said he did it because he wanted to “see if he still had it”. He had been texting two women, so he had enough conversation with them to give him his number and was texting them probably in the same room as me sometimes. He only told me bc one of them found out his real name, he was using a fake, and called him out on it bc she found his Facebook, which is covered in pics of us and our kids. So he only told me bc he got caught. He swears it’s only been a week that he was doing it. Swears he never intended on meeting up. The girl messaged me, which I would have seen before he told me if I check fb often but I don’t. She sent me screen shots of all of their text conversations, from when they first got numbers (since they had been talking some before that on the app) and all the way to when she busted him and him apologizing and everything and her going off on him for all of it. When he told me, he asked me what I wanted him to do or if I wanted to see the app, and out of pure anger and sadness I told him immediately to delete the app. Well, now that he deleted the app all of the messages are gone, on her end too. I don’t think I wanna read anymore anyway, bc the texts made me feel sick. But part of me wanted to know everything he was saying to other women. We have been less intimate lately, but we have talked about it and he knows I try, but we have just been busy. I have twin toddlers and an older son and he works long hours, so I’m tired or he’s asleep by the time I settle down for the night. But when he straight up comes to me in bed and says he wishes we could have sex soon, I literally say okay let’s do it now and we do, bc I want to as well and obviously we need to take every opportunity. Sure I’ve turned him down sometimes, but he’s turned me down sometimes as well. So anyway…..I’m a lonely stay at home mom. Who became a full time mom to his son, who’s mom is not around, when he was barely 4 (he’s 9 now). Then we had twins together who are now 3. This man is my best friend. I straight up moved to his town where all of his family lives and he has lived his whole life, to be with him and his son. Closest family I have is an hour away, everyone else is even further. I have no friends here besides his friends, but no actual friends. I’m alone. I do everything for him and our kids. We have a special needs daughter as well and I go to therapy for her 3 times a week and deal with a lot just with her on my own, plus two other kids. I’m lonely. But I’ve never thought about doing what he did. I love our family and would never wanna ruin us. He says he knows he needs to work on himself. He says it was a mistake and he loves me and I’m his soulmate. He said a lot of things. But when I asked him what would have happened if he didn’t get caught? How long would he have let it go on? He says he doesn’t know. I asked if he ever thought about actually meeting up with anyone. He swears he never wanted to do that, that it was all mental/emotional. It was all just fun and exciting apparently. Which, that obviously hurts so damn much. But in the texts I read, they both talked about possibly meeting up and flirting about it and stuff like that. He says he just said everything on there to keep the conversation going. The texts were not totally sexual, but not innocent either. A lot of things he said to her seriously instantly broke my heart and made me wanna throw up. I feel numb.
He’s just walking around the house pouting. I feel sick. I can’t even look at him when I have to talk to him about something about the kids. He keeps trying to have normal conversations with me about random stuff and I just can’t look him in the face or keep up with what he’s wanting to talk about. I want him to feel bad. I want him to regret it to the deepest part of himself. I want to punch him in a lot of places, and then call my dad and tell him, so he can come here and do whatever he feels is necessary. I want to call his sisters and tell them. I want to do a lot of things. But mostly I just want it to be a nightmare and wake up to find out none of this is real.
I don’t know what to do or what to believe from him.
What’s worse, my ex did this exact same thing to me. And he knows that. My ex was messaging other girls, flirting with them, and one of them found out about me on Facebook and messaged me. Again, I am not huge on Facebook and never saw the message from her til after he told me. But if I checked it every day then I would have found out from her first, exactly same way as what’s happening now. That man ended up dumping me and dating my little sister a year later, who had lived with us when we broke up. So you can see how this just cuts even deeper than it normally might, even though I know it’s pretty deep regardless.
I keep looking in the mirror and telling myself how unattractive I am. What’s crazy about that is, I’ve lost about 60 pounds in the last year, I had gained a lot when I had the twins, and gained more after. But I have been feeling so good about myself lately with the weight loss, I get compliments all the time about it with people I know. I actually thought I was pretty. Now I hate how I look. Now my self confidence has disappeared. Which took me a long time to get back in the first place. So with everything, he broke that in me as well.
I know this is a long post. If you made it this far, then thank you. I literally have no one else to talk to. I am afraid to talk to my sisters or parents bc they will lose their minds on him. So I came here and made a brand new Reddit account to post this and get some people to talk to me.
Have you been through something similar to this? If so, how did you handle it? Did you stay together? Did anything else happen down the road if you did? Just any advice or shared sympathy or similar stories would be helpful.

I developed a pulsatile tinnitus in the right ear some weeks ago and the last week or so have been incredibly bad. My work and mental health has been suffering a lot from it.
This wasn't the usual kind of pulsatile tinnitus where it's in sync with your pulse (I also get this one sometimes but it's not nearly as annoying).
This one was very fast, not in sync with heartbeats, also very strong. It would happen every 20 to 60 seconds, I would have the ear beating / thumping very strongly and fast, then it would slow down and stop, again and again.
I've seen the doctor, she prescribed me a brain MRI and scanner. In the meantime I was stuck with this very annoying and worrying condition.. and it was quickly getting worse.
I googled the internet for hours but did not find anything that looked like this issue or way to fix it.
Then yesterday I found a solution. I noticed I haven't been chewing on the right side, probably due to the fact I had to have some dentist work on this side a few months ago and I never got back the habit of chewing on both sides.
I started chewing hard gum on my right side intensely. After a day of this, the one-sided quick pulsatile tinnitus is gone.
I'm writing this here in the hope that it helps someone else in my situation one day. I am sorry about everyone who got tinnitus, I now understand how terrible and debilitating this condition can be.
Have a good sunday y'all.

WARNING: This post is long, full of sarcasm, dirty jokes and innuendos but 100% me. Enjoy the read, please?
Have you ever wondered if you'll find the one? The Neo to your Trinity? The Deadpool to your Vanessa? The Fish to your Chips? Or how about the Mc to your Donald's? (McDonald's reference? No? I thought it was funny lol). Anyway if you have ever wondered that then great, I've been wondering that for a long time (Not that it's a competition haha 🤣)
I've been looking for my perfect partner for so long, I know to a lot of people perfection is impossible or unachievable and you're right, everyone has different views on perfection which is why everyone says they're not perfect, have you ever wondered though, that even though you're not perfect for yourself or the world around you, you're perfect for someone? That there is a person out there who considers you the perfect person in their eyes, it may be difficult to think that way but it's true, we all look for different things in a partner that make them perfect, good looking, funny, nerdy etc.
But if you think about it, while you may think you're not attractive, not smart, not funny etc, there's someone out there who does. In a world of what 9 Billion? There has to be someone out there for you. Though if you don't believe in soulmates or some sort of destiny then that's okay, I do which is why I wanted to provide my view in it.
Anyway though, let's get to the Meat and Potatoes (British thing haha), the bit you're (hopefully here for), me!
About Me
So, hey, hello, bonjour (that's all the French I know apart from La Fentre, which is window?), I'm RangerMan612 and I am seeking my one, I've done a few posts kinda detailing who my perfect partner is to me but so far no luck (maybe I'm just that weird? Or the better answer, my my person isn't on Reddit? Or the worst answer, they don't exist 😱😭)
As you can see I like to ramble, I go from idea to idea and just don't shut up! Sometimes I'm very direct in what I say and inadvertently upset people, other times I'm not very direct and confuse people by rambling, unfortunately there is no middle ground. I like writing though, I like stories, I like going on an adventure through the mind which is why RangerMan for me is a Space Ranger flying through space seeing so many stars but not his star.... Yet?
I would say my mind is the greatest thing about me, always thinking, coming up with new ideas, new stories and how to do things, overthinking, underthinking and sometimes (most of the time) being an idiot lol 😂
Under the helmet though, I'm not Channing Tatum or Brad Pitt, I'm more, Bond, James Bond 😉 I kid, I'm not, I'm 6'0, have short brown hair, blue eyes, a dad bod (without the kid) and apparently a really good bum! (I saw you spit your drink out, weren't expecting that were you? 😂)
Personality wise, I think you've already seen how much I go on about random stuff, here are some more things if you're into the below;
- Open Minded / Kinky (Mind like a sewer)
- Aquarius
- INTP-A
- Atheist
- Nerdy (Robert Downey Jr is Iron Man!)
- Gamer (Xbox peasant but do have Steam!)
- Homebody (I like staying home but I also like the below)
- Adventurous (Go for a walk? Bike Ride? Drive? Find a new activity?)
- Sarcastic (Cannot turn it off and I'm always trying to find a good response)
- Mediocre Cook (Spaghetti Bolognese is great but for BBQs I hope you like charcoal!)
- Driver (I can drive you up the wall with my bad jokes 😉)
- Creative (See this post)
- Dog Person (Nothing against cats, just prefer dogs)
- There's probably so many more things I haven't mentioned but maybe you can find out for yourself? 😁
Also I think that's it for about me, if I've missed anything out then contact me and I'll be happy to tell you.
With that, onto the next section!
What I'm Looking For
I think there have been hints of romance in the above part of the post but I will hopefully go deeper into this below.
I would like a partner I can build a trusting, honest, open relationship with, one where we can share our secrets without being judged, share our feelings without being scared, be honest without being made out to be the bad one.
I would like a partner I can share my life with, we tell each other the fun things we do, the mundane things we do, the bad things that have happened so if we're sad we can comfort each other and tell each other it's gonna be okay, if it's an us problem then we can use our trusting honest relationship to work through the problems and fix it to grow stronger together.
I would like a partner I can love and be happy with, we would be silly with each other throughout the day, send memes to each other to make us laugh, send funny stories to make us smile, tell each other we love each other in the most unique and absurd ways, tell each other when we've had a stinky fart because we're immature and love the dirty humor.
I would like a partner that if we can't be bothered to cook that night we order a takeaway and just lay around and have a lazy day / night, at the same time I'd like to cook for my partner and show off my awesome (fairly decent) cooking skills.
I would like a partner where we accept we have flaws and aren't perfect but we work and encourage each other to work through them together so we have a deeper connection.
I would like a partner where we both know what makes the other sad and happy so if the other is sad we can comfort them and make them feel better.
I would like a partner who I can give a ring to and spend the rest of my life with, I'd like us to continue to be silly and adventurous into our later years and never stop being who we are and despite us being wrinkly and grey we still have that trusting honest relationship where we love each other deeply.
I would like a partner that has an open mind, we can experiment and have new experiences together. I'd like us to be totally committed to each other but we're both open to exploring our sexual desires and fantasies together while building trust and learning what we both like.
I would like a partner to have kids with at some point and we can have a little family while still being adventurous and safe.
I would like a partner where we care for each other when we're ill or feeling off, like on a period for example, I'd like to care for my partner and make them feel loved and cared for, I know the pain they're in so I would do everything for them so they felt rested and pain free.
I would like a partner who I can give my love and affection to, someone I can take out to random fun activities, go on a hike or bike ride, go for a drive, listen to music to, do everything with, someone I can love as a lover, love as a friend and have as a soulmate.
I think that essentially sums up what I'm looking for in a relationship though again if you have any questions feel free to message me.
Also with that I'm not sure what else to put into this post? Though if you've made it here, I'm not sure what to say apart from, THANK YOU, thank you for reading it, I hope you enjoyed it and I didn't waste too much of your time. Though if I do sound like your type of person and everything I've written is what you want then let's talk 😁

I've tried reading renegade immort, I shall seal the heavens, way of the devil, the legendary mechanic, release that witch, emperor's domination...
I even spent 700 chapters on lotm and couldnt fathom why people like it so much, its way better than all classical noveks but waay below reverend insanity its like comparing a golden chain to a silver one
Yet I come back I read like 10 chapters of reverend insanity, the Three kings blessed land
I reread another 15 chapters of the 88 building arc
And Omg the Peak of the Peak
honestly I didnt put reverend insanity in such a pedestal even though I fucking loved it yet when I started to read all the other trash I finally realised how absolutely majestic this novel is
No words can encapsulate this work for me
I even think reading this sub some people didnt read it correctly
I binged it alone in summer and omg its simply a blessing, the best moments of my life.
The poems, the wisdom in the legends of renzu, the relentlesness of Fang yuan
I wish I could see Fang yuan achieve Eternal life and for me he will and I am without a single doubt sure that he will!
honestly what a shame seeing some people make fun of reverend insanity when its honestly the Uncontested Number One Story ever for me
There is nothing that can top this, the Fate war foe me is also the pinnacle of what a story is truly
I wish I could support gu zhen ren, it feelz unfair to read reverend insanity for free

I had my third and final session of ketamine today. This clinic in Vancouver is pricey. But i got over the money thing. I'm more disappointed with my experience. It seems with this clinic because they offer 3 sessions, they seem to go big or go home. 1st session i was given 100mg IM. I must be pretty sensitive because i completely "k-holed". Did not know what that was until i was telling someone my experience. Felt completely paralyzed. Could not move, talk. Did not know who I was, where I was. It felt like death. I obviously did not enjoy it. TLDR the 2nd session they gave me less and for some reason nasal spray instead. (Did not feel much this time) 3rd time i had a similar experience to the first. This time was given 115mg IM. Was not enjoyable. I would also feel extremely emotional and more depressed after each session along with heavy nausea. I don't understand. Why has this not worked for me? Why do i feel awful after each session? Was I given too much? How do people enjoy the experience? I'm out $4k and feeling worse than when i started. I unfortunately have to wake up tomorrow and grit my way through life. The day after each session I will take Ativan, force a workout, and a cold shower, and then hopefully get some momentum to carry on living. I wish the Ketamine had given me that momentum. Feels like i have to start all over.
Side note i watched Wall-E for the first time. Despite not wanting to live, i thought it was an amazing movie.
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Would love some words of encouragement. Possibly advice. I will be looking into TDCS devices now.

I hate rainy days. Even if I’m not suffering because of the barometric pressure and having joint pain, I just feel gross on rainy days. And if I’m at home all day, it’s worse. I just feel like an oily blob that just watches TV and eats food while my body itches to just get out and do anything. Unfortunately, “anything” means getting outside and moving around, which is not optimal when it’s pouring rain. And it feels like I have zero executive function to be able to move around my tiny apartment and do things like a small workout or cleaning (that I never do anyways…).
How do you deal with rainy days at home if you’re a more hyperactive person? My regular days are pretty go-go-go (in a healthy, not super stressful way), so if I just sit around I feel gross, but as I mentioned, the things I can do to move around my apartment don’t feel “fun”. And my only options for getting out of the house involve going to eat somewhere, but if all I’ve done is sit and eat (a normal amount, dw) all day, the last thing I want to do is get more food. I just feel physically yucky from only eating and sitting.
Any advice would be appreciated! TIA :)

I've been thinking about how most Indy!Harry fics end up with Harry as a dictator worse than the Ministry ever was. Now, this is usually unintentional, and we're meant to see Harry as a benevolent leader that cracks down hard on injustice.
What if there was an Indy!Tom Riddle instead, only, only instead of him being an accidental dictator, it's on purpose? It fits perfectly. Bashing of Dumbledore, worshipping pureblood culture. The harem? Tom Riddle has an ocean's worth of charisma at any given moment. Manipulative Dumbledore? Dumbledore is honestly trying, but Tom is totally the type of guy to leak Dumbledore's history with Grindelwald to the Ministry so the Aurors can arrest him. Just a few whispers to authority figures asking the question of why Dumbledore hasn't gone and stopped Grindelwald yet.
Really, Tom is manipulative enough to spin a narrative of how Dumbledore is the true power behind everything, and how the only reason Dumbledore opposes Grindelwald is because the difference of opinion is on the method of domination. Dumbledore would work his way up politically, and his fame at being the one to "heroically" defeat Grindelwald would make the Ministry listen to his every whim.
This also answers quite neatly how Harry defeats a Dumbledore who can apparently manipulate the entire Wizarding World and has been doing so for years. It's simple. Tom Riddle is just that good at manipulation. It's his entire character.

I’m not sure if I’m wording this correctly, so please feel free to ask any questions for clarity.
I have been an entrepreneur for over a decade. To date, however, I feel like I’ve been just been running myself ragged by “hustling” (NOT illegally, but simply meaning not really working to plan for growth but instead, working day by day without real plans for the future).
Well, here I am…over a decade in, and I have absolutely nothing to show for it. I look around at people who started around the same time I did and even after. I don’t do the comparison thing; however, I can’t help but to notice how many have handled business WAY better than I have. Tired of my own BS, I’ve honed in on my focus and want to make changes.
For those of you who sell products and have found success in it, please share your answers to these questions (and even if you’re not where you want to be but have something insightful to add, I’d more than welcome it):
• what’s one thing you always keep in mind when it comes to running your business? Maybe you have a book you’ve read or a quote to live or build by.
• when it comes to products, how do you narrow down which to start with? I have two businesses but one is a jewelry company (the other is service related). I have an idea of the direction I’d like it to go. However, when I make things or solicit vendors, I love SO much stuff and want to add EVERYTHING. But then I’ll become overwhelmed or get down on myself because I don’t have the funds to fully get everything that I want. It’s hard being extremely indecisive (I’m actually working on this in therapy), but I know that it’s necessary to just start.
• do any of you have a formula that you use for markups on products (whether handmade or items you purchase and resell)?
• once you’ve done your mark up, do you have a break down of how you separate your inventory repurchase, savings, paying yourself etc?
• please share what you do and how long you’ve been doing it.
Having been an entrepreneur for so long, you’d THINK I’d have all these answers, but to say that I’ve literally been winging it and somehow managing to “afford” myself is an understatement.
I know that I have it in me to do WAY better than I have been. But I’m just wanting to talk to other entrepreneurs who have either found success OR working towards it and possibly apply some of that consistency to my own thing(s).
Thank you all so much!

I am a disabled man and my health is shit. I had bought a new carburator for my weed eater last fall and it worked great but a couple weeks ago I tried to start it for the first time since before winter and now I couldn't get it to run.
The guy who sold me the weed eater was helping me try and get it running and his friend showed up and he asked his friend if he could take a look at it since he also couldn't get it going. The friend said he had like 7 weed eaters at home hes been working on but he said that I should spray some carburetor cleaner where the spark plug is and then try it but since I didn't have no carb cleaner he said he did and offered to take it home with him and he'd do it and for exchange he asked if he could have a 5 gallon water jug sitting in my garage and I told em sure and that was the deal and that he'd return it in the next day or two.
Almost a week later and no word so I messaged him and he said to give him another day or two and then 3 days later he messages saying he has bad news and that the weed eater was shot and I told him that I appreciate him looking at it and trying but I'll take it back and take it to someone else who might be able to figure it out and he said that he has like 7 weed eaters and that he's done everything he knows to do and he's never had one not respond to a tune up but I just told em I'd take it back either way and then says he had a mechanic also look at it and he couldn't figure it out either. I told em to just bring it back or I could pick it up so I can have someone else look at it and he told me he has like 7 weed eaters again.
So yesterday which is about a week or 2 later I asked him if I can have my weed eater back and he said he was at work but afterwards yea that he would just need to put it back together. Today he calls me saying that he has it running like a beast but that he's gonna have to charge me for the part he replaced but he wasn't gonna charge me for the labor. I told em thats not what we agreed on and if he was gonna put parts on it he should've asked me first and then I asked what's part it was and he said he couldn't remember what it was called but it's the magnet that holds the spark plug and I told em he could keep his part and just to return it to me how he took it and then he offered me $75 for the weed eater but he didn't have the money and hed pay me WHEN he DOES have the money. I told him I was trying to get the weed eater going and had bought a new carb for it because I actually need it. He now is ignoring me and he's a bigger guy and I'm sure he'd beat me up and I feel like he's just trying to keep my weed eater by saying at first it was broken and now he's trying to make money off me when we didn't agree to anything like that.
What should I do? I feel like he's taking advantage of me because he knows Im sick and not intimidating. I read online that I'd have to sue him in small claims court but I don't have money to pay for court cost and that's why I wasn't trying to buy parts for it and especially when I'm almost certain no parts where needed since I had just changed the carb and it was working awesome last season. I really am angry because I hate that people that offer to help end up taking advantage of people they know the can probably get away with.

I'm 18M now and I met her at the very end of sophomore year of high school. We hung out all of junior year because we had all our classes together. She moved to a different school and Ultimately nothing special happened; until now. I invited her on a couple dates and things went really well. She was very giddy and was always looking at me. She wasn't afraid to be very close to me. We had a lot of fun playing with Legos, going out to eat and playing at the park. We ended up on her bed watching the walking dead at the end of hanging out. We were wrapped up tight against each other. I ask if I could kiss her and she said "IDK" what the fuck dose that mean? I kissed her and she half dogged me and I kissed her on the cheek. Does this mean she doesn't like me? things aren't weird between us at all. Sometimes I think that she is completely and totally in love and some days I feel like I’m putting in far more work than she is. She might love me and just not know how to show it.
I want to know if she likes me and I should continue pursuing her or if she doesn't like me and I should stop. Either option is fine by me but not knowing is ripping my brain apart. Does anyone know if there is a way for me to find out? or am I thinking about it all fucked up?

The games that I've run or been a player in have all used battle maps. Nothing special just a crude grid sometimes drawn on a whiteboard. But always a map.
I started playing with some old friends that don't live near me and their DM doesn't use grids and I'm trying to adjust but its hard. He isn't new to the game but is new to DMing. They have a ton of figures so I'm a bit surprised by the lack of a grid map.
I feel like I'm constantly slowing down the game asking about the relative distance between myself and everything else. How big is the room, how many ways in and out, etc. It just feels way less tactical and slower, the the pace is largely me asking all the questions.
Its very hard for me to keep everything in my mind's eye.
Another problem is for me combat encounters are a palette cleanser for the next roleplay segment. Lets me refresh my roleplay battery. But without a grid it has that loosey-goosey roleplay feel and I feel like I'm using the same roleplay "battery" for lack of a better term and it never gets to recharge.
I'm gonna ask him if we can use a grid, but assuming he doesn't want to how do I find a way to have fun with this no map style?