My nesting partner, Xan (F33, 10yrs together, two dogs together), is experiencing her first bout of NRE with her LDR Kevin (34M, 6yrs married to Reign, newly poly). Xan and Kevin have been dating for 7 months, exchanged "I love you"s a month in, Xan drives 6hrs every week or two to spend two or three weeks with Kevin, Reign and Kevin's sister (who requires Kevin's caregiving). Kevin works an unpredictable schedule and struggles to leave home overnight due to caregiving responsibilities so Xan, who wfh, goes to Kevin's place 98% of the time. Xan and Reign get along really well and there's a kitchen table dynamic there.
Present day, Xan lives in our house about half of the month and lives with Kevin and Kevin's family the other half of the month. When Xan is home, we have one date night a week. Sexual interactions dropped way low but still existed. She helps with the dogs. Xan loses all interest in hobbies while visiting Kevin but picks back up once home.
About two months ago, Xan was acting off and my anxious attached self bugged her about what was the matter until her avoidant self "confessed" to me that she was basically rethinking everything because she lost sexual attraction to me, wanted to move with Kevin full time and only visit me once a month for a day or two and that after evaluating everything for the last few years that she's never enjoyed living with me and just sees me as a roommate now compared to Kevin where everything is exciting.
Xan goes to therapy and after two individual sessions and one couples therapist (which I insisted on after the confession above), Xan believed that she only said it because of ADHD/defensiveness, not wanting me to get in her way of moving in with Kevin full time and because she felt pressured by me to give an answer. Xan holds firm that she never meant to say that stuff, she regrets it, she is attracted to me and wants to find balance between the relationships.
Couple's and individual therapy continues for us both. Xan and I celebrated our anniversary with a weekend trip to LA. Xan texted Kevin obsessively during the trip until I asked for her attention (she slipped twice and I "reminded" her once). It's been hard for me to get over the stuff she said and I've requested a lot of reassurance from Xan for the next month as I work on self-esteem and people pleasing stuff with my therapist. We had a classic anxious/avoidant argument over her being distracted. I wanted everything discussed and resolved immediately and she stormed out. We talked it out, finished the trip on good terms and she left for Kevin's the day we got back home.
While she's gone, connection and repair between Xan and I comes to a stand still but we're working on that in therapy and once she's back home she puts in effort. Since things are rocky right now I asked for effort while gone. She did great for that first week but then came home and the whole vibe was off. She said everything was fine so I assumed it was my insecurities and I did everything to self-soothe. She and I went on a trip for my brother's baby shower.
Xan kept being off and distracted during the night. Didn't sleep through the night, wasn't eating, was texting obsessively again on this trip. I asked multiple times. Got nothing. During the baby shower I was hurt and couldn't keep pushing it down so I confront Xan again. Turns out she and Kevin had an emotional week, she didn't want to ruin the trip by telling me but her anxiety is getting so bad that she needs to leave tomorrow for Kevin's house and knows that's not kind to me because she was planning to me home for two weeks but she has to do it for self-care. Xan was distracted, crying, not participating in the activities, running to the bathroom every hour and asked me to leave the baby shower early (I didn't.)
Xan did leave and did fix things with Kevin. It's been a disappointing disaster since Xan got back home. She says she was having a "mental health crisis" last weekend, needed to go to Kevin for self-care and shouldn't be punished for that regardless of the impact that had on me. (In a couple days, Kevin was supposed to come visit but while Xan was gone she texted me that it wasn't fair to have Kevin come if I was filled with animosity. I took that to mean the trip was cancelled. I was wrong.)
Xan starts asking about Kevin coming for the weekend. I was shocked and confused but quickly realized it was an attempted guilt trip not a reschedule. I wasn't consulted in the planning of this weekend (Kevin wants the same kitchen table set up with me and Xan that he has with Xan and Reign) when supposedly the goal of the weekend is bonding with me. I don't feel valued by Xan rn which has me feeling epically disconnected and I don't have the armor I'd have otherwise to withstand Xan and Kevin's aggressive PDA. The only thing she cares to discuss is the impact on her not seeing Kevin and the impact on Kevin since he doesn't "get to" visit often. No consideration for my request. She was disproportionately upset and unwilling to reschedule with Kevin. Honesty finally came out of Xan, she is just upset to not have Kevin's undivided time away from Reign and his sister.
It was a huge relief to me because now I actually knew what was happening with her. I said that she could pay for a rental for me for the weekend so can I can enjoy some much needed self care time and she could get undivided attention from Kevin. It's a three day weekend and I only agreed to two days because that's all that was in the calendar. In the last two days before I headed off to the rental, she was weird and standoffish again. When I went to say goodbye she disrespected my request to stop pushing bonding with Kevin atm and asked me to "let Kevin stay three days please" but wouldn't pay for another night at the rental and instead wanted me to try and befriend Kevin.
Xan is unwilling to admit the impact of NRE on her right now, unable to consider my feelings and I'm really trying to figure out how to balance her lack of self awareness and getting appropriate care and attention from my partner. When I suggest a behavior is part of her hyperfixation on Kevin or due to NRE, she said I was gaslighting her. Waiting out possibly 2 years of this just isn't an option for my sanity. I miss the reasonable, steady, considerate Xan.
What would you do with yourself, with the relationship, with boundaries, etc. if you were me?

I started dating this girl back in January, she was from the same course as me during Uni, but was never my friend, just someone that existed and participated in extracurricular activities I also happen to participate in.
Fast forward, we started chatting via DM this year and started dating after a few weeks.
Things moved fairly quickly since she started to spend too much time with me in my house. She WFH and so do I, but she doesn't have a place yet, she was sort of living the digital nomad life and staying for a few weeks at her mother's house.
Anyways, that's how we spent the first month of our relationship. We were not a couple yet, and then, after that period, she started traveling again, and I was left at my house. To say I missed her is an understatement, but she was away at a major party (Carnaval) in Brazil, so I was somewhat bittersweet about what he had.
While she was at my house, she invited me to spend a month with her in another city she was visiting for two months. That's when I must say that financially this is not my best year. I'm a freelancer and things got sour with a cocky client. Nothing great, but nothing new. But I was really attracted to the idea of spending a month with her. Was something like playing house with someone, something I never did. And then I did go, even tho I still had to pay for all my apartment bills and share whatever needs we had while in the other city. By then we were committed, as boyfriend and girlfriend.
The thing is... during that period I spent with her... she was so emotionally weird... Sometimes she was the most loving person and on another day everything I did was nothing to her... I must say I'm not the easiest person when it comes to dealing with things that upset me, so I tend to just stay in my corner till I have everything figured out in my head. But she was so moody sometimes... She never even tried to approach me when she offended me or acted like an asshole. Never apologized and sometimes even mentioned that I should just leave if something wasn't making me happy.
Anyways, after a few fights and discussions, we went back to my city and we were reaching the 3-month mark. But week after week when we came back she would just disregard something we had scheduled in order to meet some of her friends. Mind you that I'm really concerned about this type of behavior, since I grew up with my father just leaving my mother hanging all the time.
So I tried to explain that to her and how that type of attitude would affect me and then that just kept happening on a regular basis... I don't know, but something really felt off about the way she just disregarded me in order to fulfill what she wanted to do, and all I asked was that she tell me beforehand, and not just leave me hanging out.
Another example would be how I invited her to meet my parents and time after time she said she was coming and then would cancel on me, without telling me a thing... the time to travel would come and she would just pretend that we had nothing scheduled... Just... sly? Things got way worse when she finally told me that she didn't give a fuck about meeting my parents. I was like... Wooooow... what the fuck?? You are telling me all the time how special I am for meeting your parents, family and friends but is not even remotely attracted to the idea of meeting mine?
So I feel like I'm being somewhat hysterical? I feel like I always ask for so little and receive nothing but neglect and harsh words... Fuck, I would drive in the middle of the day just to pick her up from her mother's house so she could spend the day and night in my house, would buy groceries, prepare meals so we could enjoy and when I ask for something as little as "please, don't schedule something with me (as in a dinner or something) and then schedule something else", I'm suddenly in the wrong?
Then I reached a breaking point last week. I feel like that is something so minimal but so telling of how things would go if the relationship moved forward... I don't know... Guess the question I do have today is if I'm being too hysterical lol I guess so many of the details get left behind when we try to synthesize a few months of a relationship, but I think that the main points are here... I just felt utter disrespect, neglect, and coldness sometimes, and would like to understand if, in your opinion I'm a crying baby, reading too much, or if there was something to be aware of...
Anyways, I guess we are no longer together... so this is more of a post-breakup advice need. Thank you if you read this far!

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TW is for mentions of abuse and sexual assault, no intense descriptions.
I spent my 20s bouncing around living situations because my mom died without warning right before my High School graduation. We grew up dirt poor and I found out a few years ago that she was months behind on rent too, but the house was owned by my grandparents or else we would have been homeless.
A little over a decade later, I found out that a cousin had been pulling the strings behind the scenes and manipulated my grandfather to change over his will. I didn't find out about this until everything was all said and done. My college fund was taken as well, since it was in my mom and grandmother's name, so he got control of it. My cousin even got the house I was told in my teens that I would likely inherit.
The ONLY thing that didn't get stolen through elder abuse was an irrevocable trust set up in the early 90s by my grandparents. I'm the beneficary, and a certified financial planner who has been a friend of the family since the 80s is the trustee. Basically, I can't get money out of it on my own, I have to go through her and she's legally obligated to act in my best interests. Apparently, there was SOME money my cousin didn't know about that went into the trust per my grandmother's will. However, I'm no "trust fund baby". I can't go out and buy luxury items let alone rely on the Trust to pay all my living expenses for the rest of my life.
Here's another wonderful kicker: I'm disabled physically and mentally. Autism spectrum, PTSD, generalized anxiety and major depression (likely related to the trauma and distress over the years). I was born with stickler Syndrome, which is a degenerative connective tissue disorder. Marfan and Ehlers Danlos are more well-known but fall under the same general umbrella, but Stickler is basically that your body doesn't produce collagen correctly, leading to bone, heart, vision, and hearing problems varying in degree from person to person.
I already have severe enough joint problems that physical therapy can't fix. I have fissures, cysts, and completely worn down cartilage and I'm only in my early 30's. I can't walk or stand for more than 20 minutes without severe pain and risk of falls, and I'm not supposed to use stairs frequently. Even sitting for more than 4hrs a day with breaks causes pain.
I've also been having neurological issues including 24+hr headaches and week+ long vertigo that seems to crop up randomly (even today, I was staring right at my laptop screen when I suddenly felt like I was drunk for no reason) and am awaiting an appointment for imaging tests and possibly Multiple Sclerosis testing. All of these things- diagnosed and not yet diagnosed combined, primary care doctors and therapists have agreed that I should be on social security and shouldn't exacerbate some of my conditions by continuing to work (unless I can find something that's fully accommodating).
I grew up in PA but bounced all around during my housing instability. The year before Covid, I was put back into housing instability when my housemate could no longer afford her inherited home and had to sell, so I had to leave the first stable and SAFE home I'd had in almost a decade, and my accommodating job as a result. I struggled to find that stability again, and while Covid was the first time I felt like I wasn't under pressure to find that stability immediately (I was living with a friend) it did fuck up my chances of finding employment once things started opening up again. My friend wanted his rec room back and told me I needed to move out (something he says he now regrets doing, but I understand). My only option was to move with an online friend in CA.
That went spectacularly, by which I mean he turned out to be incredibly histrionic and unstable and almost rendered me homeless. Other online friends helped shack me up in a motel and then let me couch crash for a bit. I ended up losing half my stuff including things from my mom and all my art from the past decade, because he kept changing the goalposts on how and when I could come get my stuff, and technically I was living with him off his lease, and didn't want to render him and his 7yo homeless by trying to take legal action.
My partner is one of his former best friends. Former because he's completed disgusted by what was done to me, and has heard a lot of flat-out lies from this person as to what happened. Shit like saying "multiple therapists warned me about him" to make me look like a terrible person, when 1. He only had 1 therapist and she moved out of network 2 months before this went down so he had none. 2. Feeding a patient's negative thoughts about someone based on hearsay and conjecture is a MASSIVE liability and something any therapist worth their salt knows not to do.
I was working night audit at a small hotel from February of last year until December, when I was immediately pulled and put on state disability by my primary care doctor after a fall while I was alone at work. California's state disability aid is based off taxed income, so there's a limit to how long you can use it. Mine runs out July 1st and after that I have no income and can't work. In CALIFORNIA. A lot of our homeless are disabled because it's so impossible to live in this state if you can't work full time.
I will be applying for SSI, but up until last February, I had NO medical records due to not being able to afford health insurance or stay in one place long enough for appointments. I had my PTSD and depression diagnosis, but not even records of my Stickler birth defect. You need ample documentation to apply for Social Security, and with a rare birth defect and specialists often having to be scheduled months in advance, that's not quick and easy task. I'll FINALLY be applying late this summer.
I acknowledge I'm WAY luckier than most people in my situation, because of the Trust, but that's where my current hurdles are. Like I said, I can't just pull from it willy-nilly, which I'm grateful for in some ways as panic-spending might have depleted me a while ago.
Back in April, the Trustee said that I could get a mobile home in a park back home in east PA, up to 75k$ budget. There are homes in that range, but I also have to keep in mind location and lot rent. With SSI being 914$ federally (PA has no state supplement), obviously I can't go for a park with a 800+ lot rent even with assistance programs like SNAP and LIHEAP. PA isn't a rent capped state thanks to a lot of legislators owning rental properties, so landlords can legally increase rent by a hundred per year (and they have). Ever since the housing crisis, mobile home parks have become the affordable option, and some parks have been bought up by corporations who are trying to price out Social Security recipients so they can get more money from people trying to get out of apartment living but who can afford lot rents closer to apartment rent costs.
Today, my top choice home got scooped up, and the Trustee is saying that she would rather I move back and rent so I can go see the mobile homes in person rather than relying on a local friend to do the tour with me on video call. Which, yes, I agree, except...
How the fuck am I supposed to do that when no apartment- independently or company owned- will rent to me when I am not employed and my only source of income is an irrevocable Trust? My credit score is 684 and climbing, I have no debt history, my current housemates can vouch for me in terms of cleanliness, respect, and always paying rent in advance. Even with all that, landlords want things like last two pay stubs, proof of 2-3x rent in stable income, or someone else who has those things to be on the lease with me.
Room rentals? Also borderline impossible. It took me almost half a year to find my current room rental. I have a cat with an ESA letter, but that doesn't allow me past no pets policies in most room rentals. I also got ghosted more than half a dozen times when I was talking with someone about a rental and then informed them I'm transgender, which could be anything, but I'm willing to wager more often than not it was discriminatory. My physical disability also means I can't get anything that requires frequent stair use, like a basement or upper level room rental, or one of the many split-level historic homes that have been converted into the only low-income apartments in the area. There's even apartment buildings so old they don't legally need to have elevators.
Section 811 exists for disabled folks, but county and city housing agency I contacted either doesn't have it, or it requires you to already be in crisis and unhoused. Senior centers can accept up to 20% resident population that's non-elderly but disabled, but either have NYC luxury apartment prices because of the amenities, or a huge buy-in.
I'm just so. Utterly fucking exhausted.
I spent most of my formative adult years just trying to get stability, while spending my formative childhood years in deep poverty with a mother whose mental health was deeply impacted by a stroke she suffered when I was 16 who laid her hands on my throat once, would alternate between being a loving "hip" mom and screaming at me over mundane bullshit, and would constantly tell me that she could have another stroke and die if I upset her. In my housing instability, I've been sexually assaulted, verbally harassed, or just lived with couples who were constantly fighting.
I want a stable and safe home where I'm not at risk of having to move within ten years. Housing in general is ridiculous, but it's like for us disabled folks, unless we have family or a spouse to live with? Not even the housing options meant to keep us from ending up homeless are available.
I already have my plane ticket (fully refundable) back home for September 9th since I had to book early to get a good deal and lock in my cat's registration for the flight.
I'm just worried that even though I have an opportunity a lot of struggling people don't, I won't even be able to get anything.
If I'm being forced to find a rental, it would be a miracle if I find something in time that won't turn me away for having a cat, relying on Trust for income, being queer, or being unable to use stairs.
I don't want to settle for a mobile home, but likewise, I honestly just want safety and stability. I don't care if it's fucking grandma floral wallpaper and 70's bicolour shag carpet everywhere. It's mine, and the Social security administration is going to force me to spend before I hit 2k$ in assets anyway, may as well throw an entire Lowe's at it.
I know this is a lot, and I honestly don't expect anyone to read it, but I'm so fucking tired and I just want stability before I die (of old age or health, since I guess I'm genetically per-disposed to breast cancer and strokes on top of the rest of all this shit).

So back in may I got a citation for going 65 in a 45 in Henderson county North Carolina and they gave me a court date for it and I had all intentions on going but it was scheduled in September and maybe a week before my court date I ended up losing control and going off the road flipping and totaling my car.
I suffered from a broken l2 vertebrae and was recovering for the better part of 3 months and during all this happening the thought of that citation disappeared and I completely forgot about it. After my 3 months of recovery I ended up moving to Georgia.
I would’ve thought if I had fta a court date that Henderson county would be trying to contact me by phone or mail but I never got anything until the other day I went to the dds here in Georgia after completing my MSF course excited to get my endorsement but then to my surprise the lady said I had something in North Carolina that needs to be resolved before I can get my endorsement. At first I was like wtf do I have out of North Carolina then it clicked and I felt so stupid.
I called the court house in Henderson county and they told me to come in the morning and get added to the court roster that same day. My big question is with me just not going to the first court date and it being this long since I tried to resolve it should I expect a bigger punishment ? Or what about them suspending my license ?
My hope is they will just give me a fine and some court fees but if they do suspend my license I won’t be able to get my endorsement unless I pay for the class again since the waiver is only 90 days since you finished the class so it would completely ruin my plans to buy my motorcycle I’ve been working towards this past year. This might be a weird or dumb question but man I’m really just looking for some good news.

Okay, this is gonna be a bit of a strange post! So, my school very recently established a drama club, like, just this past school year. It's headed by our art teacher and my choir director. On the last day of school, I was having a conversation with my choir director and she confirmed that next school year, we'll be doing a spring musical! She can't announce what it'll be now because they still haven't sorted out everything concerning copyright, but I asked some questions that might help me guess with a little bit of help.

• It won't be very dance heavy. I brought up the fact that I would love to do Newsies and she very quickly shot it down, she said it's definitely not Newsies and it won't be dance heavy at all. "Not any more dance heavy than Spongebob." she specifically said, as I was recently in a community theatre production of Spongebob: The Musical. So this rules out things like West Side Story and Hairspray.
  
• It's pretty evenly split on genders. I asked her if there would be more girls or boys in the cast, and she said it would be fairly even throughout the cast. So nothing with a primarily male or female cast.
  
• It's a medium sized cast, with plenty of ensemble roles to go around. That rules out small cast musicals like Ride The Cyclone, Putnam County Spelling Bee, or You're A Good Man Charlie Brown.
  

Does anyone have any idea what show it might be? The 3 shows that have been bouncing around in my head as possibilities are Shrek, Tuck Everlasting, and The Addams Family, all of those shows would be awesome to be a part of! Does anyone think they might know what it could be?

So about two months ago our restaurant went back opening Sundays after being closed on Sundays for winter. Since we got reduced star because of winter, my manager put me on schedule to work Sundays, although I made it clear when I got hired that I don’t work Sundays because I’m very active at church and I spend the rest of the day with my family. I told my manager I would help him for two months or until he found someone else to cover that shift, whatever came first. He never even looked for anyone.
Fast forward Mother’s Day, I receive the schedule the week before and I immediately send him a message reminding him that I don’t work on Sundays, which he chose to ignore. Thursday night, he mentions how it’s gonna be packed for Mother’s Day, and how excited he is that we servers will make a lot of money. I put my arm around him and say: “You do remember I don’t work Sundays, right? I told you two months ago to find someone else and I reminded you as soon as I got the schedule”. He responds by saying that then I have to find cover. I tell him that I won’t find any cover because that’s not my shift and that’s not my problem. I tell him if he keeps me on that shift, he will have a problem when Sunday comes.
Sunday comes and he doesn’t put anyone in my spot, and… I don’t show up.
The GM comes by and asks about me. Instead of telling the whole story, my manager only says that I didn’t show up. He then says I’m suspended.
My manager breaks the news to me the next day when I show up to work, that I’m suspended for the week, but I can finish that shift, since they need me (of course). But something happened that the GM didn’t expect. The owner went there to eat, and a guy who is his right hand notices I’m not particularly happy that day. He asks me what’s wrong, I say “nothing”, but he probably had already heard, so he insists. I just say that something happened that I don’t think was fair, but he shouldn’t worry. He says he knows and I should talk to the owner. I say I don’t like to go over anyone’s head. He says if I don’t talk to the owner, he will. And he went. 5 minutes later, the owner calls me to the table and says: “As long as I am here, you will never be suspended. I see how much heart you put into my company, and I will also put my heart on you. If you ever have any trouble with anyone, you come straight to me. If you’re wrong, I’ll tell you you’re wrong. But if you’re right, I’ll protect you.”
Then he calls the GM and scolds him hard. The GM blames the manager, the manager blames the GM, and I felt really good.
TL:DR: GM suspends me without knowing the full story and ends up being scolded by the owner and having to reverse my suspension.

Hello, I’m a novel writer and write daily according to my schedule. Other than writing, I play light games and do some heavy Blender work.
I have a PC at home but because I’m moving a lot more I want to buy a laptop. Permanently. How should I go about this?

• Needs to be fairly priced
• Backlit keyboard suggested
• Good RAM for Blender work.
• Light games, such as smaller steam games and very rarely, Roblox

I’ve been looking at the surface laptops lately (in person at BestBuy), and was looking to get a Surface Laptop 5. But then again, lots of reviews advise against such. So, Reddit computer-technicians, how should I go?

Hi there, I’ll cut to the chase (but not before I stress the TRIGGER WARNING ⚠️ … discussing mental health problems)
I have had mental illness issues for over a decade. Unfortunately, as a minor, absolutely every adult failed me spectacularly, so I had to trial and error my way around life until I finally got the help I needed all along.
I have had a full psychological evaluation and I have been diagnosed with
-Major Depressive Disorder (severe, with psychosis), -PTSD, -OCD (which I really had no idea but apparently so!), - agoraphobia with panic disorder - extreme inattentive ADHD ( didn’t realize it was that bad…) - and even potential traits of antisocial personality disorder (although I have plenty of empathy and don’t hurt people on purpose of anything).
With all of that being said, I’m also a mom, of course. I’m so thankful for my dad, he takes them to his house every week on Mondays. That has helped TREMENDOUSLY (and he started doing it after I was sent to a behavioral hospital for two weeks). Before that I had absolutely zero help. At least he came through in the end.
So, I have some family support, and I’m properly diagnosed and medicated at last… but I have always had a REALLY hard time with work. I try really heard to be a great employee, but I have significant memory issues and sometimes become really depressed and tearful out of the blue.
While I do qualify for disability, it’s not a livable amount and I do want to put my BA which I worked so hard for to use. I believe a part-time schedule would be best, but I don’t know if that’s financially realistic for my family. TBH my spouse doesn’t make that much so just not working isn’t a fair choice, that would make everything harder on everybody.
I’ve come to understand there are workplace accommodations, but I truly have no idea how this works, and what “reasonable accommodations” are for someone like me… and should I even disclose it??? Most jobs I’ve ever applied for ask if you’ve ever been diagnosed with a disability and that makes me so nervous, because while they “can’t” discriminate I’m almost certain companies prefer to hire employees without disability (just based on the terrible experiences I’ve had when literally any of my mental health issues have come up). I actually told my supervisor I was experiencing a bad mental health episode and surprise, suddenly they didn’t need my help anymore.
I don’t really know what to do here. Any advice?
I had a very hard time in school as well, I skipped classes often in high school, i had to repeat a few college courses due to depression episodes. All of that.

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Agenda Item

CD4 - Funds Transfer for Partners of Parks

Item #1 • File #23-0553 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Councilman Daryl Supernaw, Fourth District

Recommendation to increase appropriations in the General Fund Group in the City Manager Department by $200, offset by the Fourth Council District One-time District Priority Funds transferred from the Citywide Activities Department to provide support to Partners of Parks for their Long Beach Charity ProAm event; and Decrease appropriations in the General Fund Group in the Citywide Activities Department by $200 to offset a transfer to the City Manager Department.

CD4 - Funds Transfer for LGBTQ Center Long Beach

Item #2 • File #23-0554 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Councilman Daryl Supernaw, Fourth District

Recommendation to increase appropriations in the General Fund Group in the City Manager Department by $500, offset by the Fourth Council District One-time District Priority Funds transferred from the Citywide Activities Department to provide a contribution to The LGBTQ Center Long Beach in support of their Black & White Ball 2023; and Decrease appropriations in the General Fund Group in the Citywide Activities Department by $500 to offset a transfer to the City Manager Department.

CD4 - Funds Transfer for Wild West Women, Inc

Item #3 • File #23-0555 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Councilman Daryl Supernaw, Fourth District

Recommendation to increase appropriations in the General Fund Group in the City Manager Department by $500, offset by the Fourth Council District One-time District Priority Funds transferred from the Citywide Activities Department to provide support to Wild West Women, Inc for their inaugural Long Beach Woman’s Fair; and Decrease appropriations in the General Fund Group in the Citywide Activities Department by $500 to offset a transfer to the City Manager Department.

CD5 - Funds Transfer to Support Community Events

Item #4 • File #23-0556 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Councilwoman Megan Kerr, Fifth District

Recommendation to increase appropriations in the General Fund Group in the City Manager Department by $2,000, offset by the Fifth Council District One-Time District Priority Funds transferred from the Citywide Activities Department to provide a contribution to: · $500 to Partners of Parks in support of the Long Beach Juneteenth Celebration; · $1,000 to support the Uptown Jazz Festival; · $500 to the Long Beach Century Club in support of the Mayor’s Trophy Charity Golf Tournament; and Decrease appropriations in the General Fund Group in the Citywide Activities Department by $2,000 to offset a transfer to the City Manager Department.

CD4 - Funds Transfer for Rancho Los Alamitos Foundation

Item #5 • File #23-0562 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Councilman Daryl Supernaw, Fourth District

Recommendation to increase appropriations in the General Fund Group in the City Manager Department by $2,000, offset by the Fourth Council District One-time District Priority Funds transferred from the Citywide Activities Department to provide a contribution to Rancho Los Alamitos Foundation in support of their Summer Concert Series; and Decrease appropriations in the General Fund Group in the Citywide Activities Department by $2,000 to offset a transfer to the City Manager Department.

CD4 - Funds Transfer for Long Beach Century Club

Item #6 • File #23-0561 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Councilman Daryl Supernaw, Fourth District

Recommendation to increase appropriations in the General Fund Group in the City Manager Department by $500, offset by the Fourth Council District One-time District Priority Funds transferred from the Citywide Activities Department to provide support to the Long Beach Century Club for their Mayor’s Trophy Charity Golf Tournament; and Decrease appropriations in the General Fund Group in the Citywide Activities Department by $500 to offset a transfer to the City Manager Department.

Arcelia Delgado

Item #7 • File #23-0552 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• City Attorney

Recommendation to authorize City Attorney to submit Stipulations with Request for Award for approval by the Workers’ Compensation Appeals Board, and if so approved, authority to pay $169,300.13 for Stipulations with Request for Award with a life pension thereafter of $170.04 subject to COLA increases per week in compliance with the Appeals Board Order for Arcelia Delgado. The City of Long Beach is entitled to credit for payments previously paid in the amount of $69,532.31.

Michael Hannan

Item #8 • File #23-0551 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• City Attorney

Recommendation to authorize City Attorney to submit Stipulations with Request for Award for approval by the Workers’ Compensation Appeals Board, and if so approved, authority to pay $104,182.50 in compliance with the Appeals Board Order for Michael Hannan.

CA - Kayla Jentes

Item #9 • File #23-0557 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• City Attorney

Recommendation to authorize City Attorney to pay sum of $200,000, in full settlement of a lawsuit entitled Kayla Jentes, et al. v. City of Long Beach, et al., Los Angeles Superior Court Case No. 20STCV29354.

CA - Joel Reyes

Item #10 • File #23-0558 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• City Attorney

Recommendation to authorize City Attorney to pay sum of $399,000, in full settlement of a lawsuit entitled Joel Reyes, et al. v. City of Long Beach, Los Angeles Superior Court Case No. BC703737.

Martin Romo

Item #11 • File #23-0549 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• City Attorney

Recommendation to authorize the City Attorney to submit two Stipulations with Request for Award for approval by the Workers’ Compensation Appeals Board, and if so approved, authority to pay 1) $17,545.00, and also 2) separate authority to pay $72,500.00 in compliance with the Appeals Board Order for Martin Romo.

Mario Talavera

Item #12 • File #23-0550 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• City Attorney

Recommendation to authorize the City Attorney to submit two Stipulations with Request for Award for approval by the Workers’ Compensation Appeals Board, and if so approved, authority to pay 1) $27,695.00, and also 2) separate authority to pay $80,982.50 in compliance with the Appeals Board Order for Mario Talavera.

CC - Damage Claims

Item #13 • File #23-0547 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• City Clerk

Recommendation to refer to City Attorney damage claims received between May 15, 2023 and May 26, 2023.

CM - Federal Lobbyist RFP

Item #15 • File #23-0563 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• City Manager

Recommendation to Adopt Specifications No. RFP CM-23-236 and award a contract to Holland & Knight, LLP, of Washington, D.C., for federal legislative representation services, in a total annual amount not to exceed $130,000, for a period of two years, with the option to renew for three additional one-year periods, at the discretion of the City Manager; and, authorize City Manager, or designee, to execute all documents necessary to enter into the contract, including any necessary subsequent amendments. (Citywide)

FM - Coastline Equip. for the purchase of a John Deere 332G skid steer

Item #17 • File #23-0566 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Financial Management

Recommendation to adopt resolution authorizing City Manager, or designee, to execute a contract, and any necessary documents including any necessary subsequent amendments, with Bragg Investment Company, Inc., dba Coastline Equipment, a Long Beach distributor of John Deere Construction Retail Sales, of Moline, IL, for the purchase of a John Deere 332G skid steer, with related equipment and accessories, on the same terms and conditions afforded to Sourcewell, in a total amount not to exceed $153,097, inclusive of taxes and fees. (Citywide)

FM - Coastline Equip-John Deere 310P backhoe

Item #18 • File #23-0567 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Financial Management

Recommendation to adopt resolution authorizing City Manager, or designee, to execute a contract, and any necessary documents including any necessary subsequent amendments, with Bragg Investment Company, Inc., dba Coastline Equipment, a Long Beach distributor of John Deere Construction Retail Sales, of Moline, IL, for the purchase of a John Deere 310P backhoe, with related equipment and accessories, on the same terms and conditions afforded to Sourcewell, in a total amount not to exceed $169,631, inclusive of taxes and fees. (Citywide)

Mayor - Cancellation of July 4th City Council Meeting

Item #23 • File #23-0560 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Mayor Rex Richardson

Recommendation to suspend Council rule contained in Municipal Code Section 2.03.020 (B) relating to the meeting schedule of the City Council in order to cancel the City Council meeting of July 4, 2023.

PRM/PW - Capital improvements at El Dorado East Regional, El Dorado Park West, Houghton, and Stearns Parks D4,9

Item #33 • File #23-0582 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Parks, Recreation and Marine
• Public Works

Recommendation to authorize City Manager, or designee, to accept and expend grant funds from the California Department of Parks and Recreation for capital improvements at El Dorado East Regional, El Dorado Park West, Houghton, and Stearns Parks, in an amount not to exceed $15,400,000; Increase appropriations in the Capital Projects Fund Group in the Parks, Recreation and Marine Department by $342,000, offset by grant revenue; Increase appropriations in the Capital Projects Fund Group in the Parks, Recreation and Marine Department by $342,000, offset by a transfer of California Department of Parks and Recreation grant funds from the Capital Grants Fund; Increase appropriations in the Capital Projects Fund Group in the Public Works Department by $15,058,000, offset by grant revenue; and Increase appropriations in the Capital Projects Fund Group in the Public Works Department by $15,058,000, offset by a transfer of California Department of Parks and Recreation grant funds from the Capital Grants Fund. (Districts 4,9)

Resolution

CC - Destruction of Records

Item #14 • File #23-0548 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• City Clerk

Recommendation to approve the destruction of records for the Health and Human Services Department; and adopt resolution.

FM - Ray Gaskin Service for for the purchase of one Ford F-550 refuse truck

Item #16 • File #23-0565 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Financial Management

Recommendation to adopt resolution authorizing City Manager, or designee, to execute a contract, and any necessary documents including any necessary subsequent amendments, with Ray Gaskin Service, an authorized distributor for New Way Trucks and Scranton Manufacturing Company, of Fontana, CA, for the purchase of one Ford F-550 refuse truck, with related equipment and accessories, on the same terms and conditions afforded to Sourcewell, in a total amount not to exceed $167,457, inclusive of taxes and fees. (Citywide)

FM - The Quinn Co. for the purchase of 4 Caterpillar 430 backhoe loaders

Item #19 • File #23-0568 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Financial Management

Recommendation to adopt resolution authorizing City Manager, or designee, to execute a contract, and any necessary documents including any necessary subsequent amendments, with Caterpillar Inc., through its local dealer, Quinn Company, of City of Industry, CA, for the purchase of four Caterpillar 430 backhoe loaders, with related equipment and accessories, on the same terms and conditions afforded to Sourcewell, in a total amount not to exceed $1,016,512, inclusive of taxes and fees. (Citywide)

DS - Noise Element

Item #22 • File #23-0564 (Details, PDF)
Recommendation to receive supporting documentation into the record and conclude the public hearing; Adopt resolution approving and certifying the Environmental Impact Report EIR 03-20, State Clearinghouse No. 2019050009 and associated findings;

DS - Noise Element

Item # • File #23-0585 (Details, PDF)
Adopt resolution replacing the current Noise Element with the updated Noise Element of the Long Beach General Plan; and

ED - 702 Anaheim Shelter – LB Rescue Mission and First to Serve D3

Item #24 • File #23-0584 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Economic Development
• Health and Human Services

Recommendation to receive and file Contract No. 36576 with Long Beach Rescue Mission Foundation, Inc., a California public benefit corporation (Lessor) and the City of Long Beach (Lessee) and Contract No. 36578, a Sublease between the City of Long Beach (Sublessor) and First to Serve Ministries, Inc., a California nonprofit corporation (Sublessee), or its assignee, for approximately 17,000 rentable square feet of space at 702 West Anaheim Street, for use as an emergency shelter, made pursuant to Chapter 2.85 of the Long Beach Municipal Code (LBMC) and in response to the emergency proclaimed regarding homelessness. (District 1)

FM - Transfer of FY 23 gross operating revenue, from the Harbor Fund Group to the Tidelands Operating Fund

Item #25 • File #23-0569 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Financial Management

Recommendation to adopt resolution requesting that the Board of Harbor Commissioners approve the transfer of 5 percent of Fiscal Year 2023 (FY 23) gross operating revenue, from the Harbor Fund Group to the Tidelands Operating Fund Group, with a true-up adjustment, if necessary, to reflect the final gross revenue amount upon issuance of the Harbor Department’s FY 23 audited financial statements. (Districts 1,2,3)

FM - Velocity Truck Centers for the purchase of 7 CNG powered Crane Carrier LNT-26 trucks

Item #26 • File #23-0572 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Financial Management

Recommendation to adopt resolution authorizing City Manager, or designee, to execute a contract, and any necessary documents including any necessary subsequent amendments, with Los Angeles Truck Centers, LLC, dba Velocity Truck Centers, an authorized distributor of Crane Carrier trucks, of Whittier, CA, for the purchase of seven CNG powered Crane Carrier LNT-26 trucks, with New Way rear loader refuse bodies, on the same terms and conditions afforded to Sourcewell, in a total amount not to exceed $2,951,446, inclusive of taxes and fees. (Citywide)

FM - Velocity Truck Center-10 CNG Crane Carrier Roto-Pac side loader refuse trucks

Item #27 • File #23-0573 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Financial Management

Recommendation to adopt resolution authorizing City Manager, or designee, to execute a contract, and any necessary documents including any necessary subsequent amendments, with Los Angeles Truck Centers, LLC, dba Velocity Truck Centers, of Whittier, CA, an authorized distributor of Crane Carrier trucks, for the purchase of 10 CNG Crane Carrier, Roto-Pac side loader refuse trucks, with related equipment and accessories, on the same terms and conditions afforded to Sourcewell, in a total amount not to exceed $4,765,507, inclusive of taxes and fees; and Authorize City Manager, or designee, to execute a lease-purchase agreement, and related financing documents, with Banc of America Public Capital Corp, of San Francisco, CA, for the financing of Roto-Pac refuse trucks, payable over a seven-year period at an interest rate to be determined when the agreement is executed. (Citywide)

FM/PW - Velocity Truck Center-20 CNG Crane Carrier side loader refuse trucks

Item #29 • File #23-0574 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Financial Management
• Public Works

Recommendation to adopt resolution authorizing City Manager, or designee, to execute a contract, and any necessary documents including subsequent amendments, with Los Angeles Truck Centers, LLC, dba Velocity Truck Centers, of Whittier, CA, an authorized distributor of Crane Carrier trucks, for the purchase of 20 CNG Crane Carrier side loader refuse trucks, with New Way side loader refuse bodies, on the same terms and conditions afforded to Sourcewell, in a total amount not to exceed $9,322,091, inclusive of taxes and fees. (Citywide)

PRM - Reso w/LAFCO-LA for final District Boundary Map

Item #31 • File #23-0581 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Parks, Recreation and Marine

Recommendation to adopt resolution in support of the formation of the Lower San Gabriel River Recreation and Park District; direct City Clerk to file the resolution with the Local Area Formation Commission - Los Angeles (LAFCO-LA); and, authorize City Manager to approve the final District Boundary Map on behalf of the City. (Citywide)

PRM/DHHS - Accept grant funds for Wrigley Greenbelt and Multi-Service Center D7

Item #32 • File #23-0577 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Parks, Recreation and Marine
• Health and Human Services

Recommendation to adopt resolution authorizing City Manager, or designee, to execute any necessary documents including subsequent amendments, to accept grant funds from the California Natural Resources Agency for capital improvements at Wrigley Greenbelt and Multi-Service Center, in an amount not to exceed $5,200,000. (District 7)

ABC License

PD - ABC License - Tacomasa D3

Item #20 • File #23-0576 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Police

Recommendation to receive and file the application of Tacomasa 1 LLC, dba Tacomasa, for an original application of an Alcoholic Beverage Control (ABC) license, at 4740 East 7th Street #130, submit a Public Notice of Protest to ABC, and direct City Manager to withdraw the protest if a Conditional Use Permit (CUP) or Conditional Use Permit Exemption (CUPEX) is granted. (District 3) Levine Act: Yes

PD - ABC License- Northern Café D3

Item #21 • File #23-0575 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Police

Recommendation to receive and file the application of TCRY Incorporated, dba Northern Cafe, for an original application of an Alcoholic Beverage Control (ABC) license, at 4911 East 2nd Street, submit a Public Notice of Protest to ABC, and direct the City Manager to withdraw the protest if a Conditional Use Permit (CUP) or Conditional Use Permit Exemption (CUPEX) is granted. (District 3) Levine Act: Yes

Ordinance

DS - Noise Element

Item # • File #23-0586 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Development Services

Declare ordinance implementing associated amendments to the Noise Ordinance, Long Beach Municipal Code Chapter 8.80, read for the first time and laid over to the next regular meeting of the City Council. (Citywide)

CM - Ordinance Amending LBMC 5.92

Item #35 • File #23-0532 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• City Manager

Recommendation to declare ordinance amending the Long Beach Municipal Code by amending Chapter 5.92 to reinstate language related to the operation of adult-use dispensaries in mixed-used buildings in Downtown Long Beach, read and adopted as read. (Citywide)

Contract

FM - South Coast Fire Equip. for 10 Pierce Enforcer Triple Combination fire engine pumper trucks

Item #28 • File #23-0571 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Financial Management

Recommendation to adopt Specifications No. RFP FS22-175 and award a contract to South Coast Fire Equipment, Inc., of Ontario, CA, for the purchase of nine Pierce Enforcer Triple Combination Fire Engine pumper trucks, and one Pierce Enforcer Triple Combination Rescue Engine pumper truck, with related equipment and accessories, in a total amount not to exceed $11,328,555; and, authorize City Manager, or designee, to execute all documents necessary to enter into the contract, including any necessary subsequent amendments; and Authorize City Manager, or designee, to execute a lease-purchase agreement, and related financing documents, with Banc of America Public Capital Corp, of San Francisco, CA, for the financing of fire engine pumpers, payable over a 10-year period at an interest rate to be determined when the agreement is executed. (Citywide)

PRM - Great Scott for as-needed tree trimming

Item #30 • File #23-0579 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Parks, Recreation and Marine

Recommendation to authorize City Manager, or designee, to execute all documents necessary to amend Contract No. 35545 with Great Scott Tree Service, Inc., of Stanton, CA, for as-needed tree trimming and removal services, to increase the annual contract amount by $1,949,030 with a 15 percent contingency in the amount of $292,355, for a revised total annual contract amount not to exceed $3,211,410. (Citywide)

PW - As-Needed Architectural Services

Item #34 • File #23-0583 (Details, PDF)
Sponsors:

• Public Works

Recommendation to authorize City Manager, or designee, to execute all documents necessary to amend Contract No. 33926 with Architects McDonald, Soutar & Paz, Inc., of Long Beach, CA; Contract No. 33912 with Kardent, of Long Beach, CA; Contract No. 33913 with Mary McGrath Architects, of Oakland, CA; and Contract No. 33917 with Alomar Rania, dba RA-DA, of West Hollywood, CA, for as-needed architectural services, to extend the contract terms for an additional one-year period through July 19, 2024; Authorize City Manager, or designee, to execute all documents necessary to amend Contract No. 33498 with Hirsch & Associates, Inc., of Anaheim, CA, and Contract No. 33504 with RJM Design Group, Inc., of San Juan Capistrano, CA, for as-needed landscape architectural services, to extend term the contract terms for an additional one-year period through August 1, 2024; Authorize City Manager, or designee, to execute all documents necessary to amend Agreement No. 34375 with AKM Consulting Engineers, Inc., of Irvine, CA; Agreement No. 34376 with AndersonPenna Partners, Inc., of Newport Beach

I feel like this is such a great avenue that not nearly enough students take advantage of, and I'm tired of making comments about it, so I'm just going to make this one effortpost - my magnum opus - to refer people to.

Overview:

I see a lot of students taking summewinter courses through UConn and it absolutely kills me on the inside. You're paying out the ass to take a class that you probably don't want to be taking and you have to stress about your grades while cramming the whole class into a few weeks? THERE'S A BETTER WAY.

Benefits:

• Save money. UConn charges nearly $700 per credit for their summer and winter courses. Alternatively, CT Community College Classes come out to just over $200(!!!) per credit. WOWZERS!!!!! (If you're out-of-state, the cost is much more comparable to UConn's. Sorry, you're not really getting this benefit.)
• Less work. It's community college. The class sizes are small, it's a more laid-back environment, and many classes are offered online (this could be viewed as a con, but in my opinion, they've all been insanely easy this way); you can fairly easily pass the classes without exerting much effort or even leaving your house. With that being said, if you are really interested in the subject matter, you can absolutely learn a lot. Every professor I've had has been great and willing to help you out. You really just get out what you put in, but passing is much easier than at UConn in my experience.
• Less worry about grades. When you transfer credits into UConn, they do not accept the grades to your transcript; the grade you receive in the course will have no impact on your GPA. The credits will still count, however, even for many gen-ed and major requirements (just talk to your advisor and refer to your plan of study to be sure). If there's a class you have to take that you worry might damage your GPA, and it's offered at a community college, it might be worth taking there to save yourself the stress. For example, I know many business students (me) have taken their accounting classes online through community colleges. Just know that YOU HAVE TO EARN A C or it will not transfer.

How To Do It:

1. Look for the class you want to take. You can use this tool to search for classes offered through Connecticut's community colleges. The subject names and course titles may not be exactly the same as UConn's, but that's okay; do your best to find what you believe is the course you're trying to take. You then cross reference those search results to UConn's transfer course equivalencies page, where the school has already established courses that they accept and how it will show up on your transcript. If you can't find the course here, but you're interested in taking one of the community college courses, you should submit a request for prior course approval. An outline of that process can be found here. You should just be aware that the credits will likely show up on your transcript as a general class within the subject; if you're trying to meet a specific University requirement, this probably won't be sufficient.
2. Apply to the community college. This process is (last time I checked) free and extremely easy. Go to this website, create an account, and apply to the community college which offers the course you want to take. It will walk you through the whole process which shouldn't take more than like 10 minutes. Just make sure you're applying as a non-degree/non-matriculated student (you're not going there full-time, and your goal is to transfer the credits to UConn). I think they ask for an official transcript from UConn, but I've always just emailed an unofficial transcript to the school's admissions office and I've never had an issue. Save yourself the $5 and try that first. You'll hear back from them within a few days at most and you'll be good to go.
3. Enroll in the course. They have their own version of StudentAdmin that you use to do this. I'm sure you can figure it out.
4. Take the course. EARN AT LEAST A C.
5. Send your OFFICIAL transcript to UConn. Once you can see that grades are posted to your unofficial transcript at the community college, you can do this through their StudentAdmin thing. I also think there's an option to submit the request right away but hold off on sending it until the grades are posted, but I've always just waited and done it myself. UConn receives the transcript and sees that you passed the class, they'll add it to your UConn transcript and you'll be all set.

Considerations:

• Official policies regarding transferring credits can be found here. Notably, you can't transfer credits for lab or language courses that are taken online, even if it's hybrid format.
• Not all UConn classes can be transferred from elsewhere. Whether it be because other schools don't offer the course or because UConn (or your specific department) won't accept transfer credits for the course, it could be the case that you have to take it at UConn.
• While doing this will not hurt your GPA, it's important to note that it will not help it either. If you have the chance to take an easy class at UConn during the fall/spring semester (i.e. you don't have to pay anything extra to take it), you should just do it. If you transfer in too many easy classes, you'll have fewer GPA boosters on your transcript. I personally prioritized transferring more difficult classes or classes that I thought I would be very uninterested in.
• Transfer credits don't look as good on your transcript. If you plan on applying to any other school (e.g. grad school or if you're currently in ACES and trying to find your place at UConn), you should be mindful of this. For some gen-eds or electives, it's probably not important, but you should try to take your core courses at UConn if you're going to apply somewhere that will look at your transcript. If you do apply for further schooling with transfer credits, they will likely want to see your transcripts from those other schools as well, so try to get good grades in those classes. If you're on a trajectory where you're already in school and you don't plan on going to grad school in the near future, this probably doesn't matter to you.
• These classes can be taken while you are enrolled at UConn during the fall and spring. I mentioned summer and winter classes simply because that's when I feel most people would/should take advantage of this, but nothing is stopping you from taking classes elsewhere during the fall and spring semesters. I would just say that if you are paying to be a full-time student at UConn, you'll get more of your money's worth by filling your schedule with and prioritizing UConn classes.
• REFER TO YOUR PLAN OF STUDY AND TALK TO YOUR ADVISOR. It should go without saying that every school/department has different rules so you need to be sure that what you are doing is allowed and will actually help you. For example, the School of Business limits the overall number of credits you can transfer in.

Conclusion:

hope this helps someone save some money and stress :)

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Iam a long time lurker on another username. Changed to this one for privacy so I can just lay it out there. Iam a 38 year old guy, paramedic of over a decade , husband , father to 4 kids ( 3 by marriage and one 4 year old biological) and I would like yalls help. Iam an alcoholic. I had a troubled childhood ( big surprise) and have been drinking in one way or another since I was 14. It has at times been worse at times it’s been better but always always there. As I get older I know time is catching up to this. Everytime I go to work I see debilitation or death due to alcohol right in front of me. My work schedule is : working for two days and having four days off. Iam confident that without my forced two days off at a time I might be dead. I know my liver enzymes are moderately elevated because I have them run fairly regularly. Iam carrying 30 pounds too heavy. Feel awful and tired. Yet I can’t seem to make it past 9 days which was my longest in recent memory. I know where all this goes. I have a very challenging and I would say turmoil filled marriage. That being said my other half doesn’t know how bad iam struggling on a day to day. I for the moment hide my drinking well and still perform all tasks I need to . She really can’t because she has said that if she knows iam drinking she will leave me. During the first 2 years of our 5 year marriage my drinking caused issues like verbal fights and me sobbing like a baby at things. Ladies and Gents of the sub. I just need to be able to have a place , accountability , and people to talk to when I want to fall off the wagon. I want to be healthy . I want to be who my family needs me to be . I want to be able to hug my son when iam 60. I want to live.

An’ I’ll tell yuh how I traveled to the Essex County Fair.

Hello! My name is Levi and I'm a pretty experienced DM. I'm here on reddit to put out my little feelers and suck up some new players, and perhaps, some new friends. 0:
I'll start off by saying a little about myself, I'm 21 and I live in New Mexico. I'm a dedicated DM and only get to be a player rarely. I think I've dmed around maybe 10-15 campaigns of varying lengths, and probably a lot of one-shots lol. I started DMing because of Brennan Lee Mulligan from Dimension 20 but I've been a player before that as well.
We already have two players, one of which is my partner and the other is my roommate! They are both very cool and swag and stuff. Like em' alot. (:
Kal, my partner, is 19 and nb. They're a wonderful artist, dungeon master, and they've been playing alot of Tears of The Kingdom on their switch lately.
Mackenzie is 27(ik they're old lmao what a loser), also a wonderful artist (actually went to art school) and a future dm. They're currently a teacher but since summer is coming they're gonna be broke. She's also the reason I'm not homeless :3
SO, what about the actual campaign itself???
I'm so glad you asked! omg! thanks!
Basically, I'm planning to run a space faring sci-fi type campaign. Nothing is really set in stone yet, I'm building up the setting as we speak. If you'd like an idea, think less Spelljammer and more Starstruck Odyssey, Very techy with a silly side (:
Our schedules are fairly open to play whenever, and we don't care about your timezones or anything, as long as you can play at our time lol. And we will be using the 5th edition ruleset to play, as it's what we're all familiar with.
Something I'd like to make clear is that NEW PLAYERS ARE VERY WELCOME! I have taught many many many people how to play DND5e and I love doing so. If you think you fit the vibe im putting out and you want a starting off point for dnd, look no further! There won't be any judgement here! Just so I know you read this post, when you dm me please say "zamn!!!".
So, what is REQUIRED to play in my game???
-You gotta be around our ages! It can be pretty lenient but if you're 94 or 2 you gotta look somewhere else sorry.
-As if it wasn't clear already, we're very LBGTQ+ friendly! I myself am ace and bi. So keep that in mind!
-Don't be a dick!
-Be ready.
Anyone who is interested just dm me right away on reddit, (If you reply to the post saying you're interested I'll just assume you didn't read the post lol) and then after we can talk on Discord.
Lastly I'd like to say that this is more than just an invitation to my campaign, it's more like an invitation to a friend group! If you join, there will most definitely be more campaigns after this one you can join, and my partner is also an excellent DM who will be running one soon as well. (And they'll need players!) And we love to play games together on pc all the time, so if you can play games with us thats a total plus! So if you're gonna join, it's for the long haul!

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((A fanfic of the amazing u/SpacePaladin15's The Nature of Predators story. Credit goes to them for the wonderful setting this takes place in!))
Memory transcription subject: Arxur hunter SyleDate [standardized human time]: REDACTEDI walked up to the human and stared down at him. My chest hurt, but my heart was beating so hard I could barely feel it. I wiped off the last of the paint as he looked up at me. “Alright. Believe I hunt now?” He asked as he pulled down the bottom of his mask and bared his teeth at me. I was already briefed that it was a “smile,” but it still felt the prey-hugger was mocking me.
He was lucky I needed him.
“Yes. I do, now for the bet.” I hissed out as my tail flicked frantically. I could feel the other Arxur staring me down from the side of the field. Like I was gnashing prey. This was my chance to escape them. My chance to stop eating sentients. My one chance to get out of betterment alive.
I looked down at him and took a deep breath.
“I. Arxur hunter Syle. Hereby swear to follow you and do as you wish as your servant. You won our wager, and this is how I will pay.”
Well, at least the smile was gone. The man’s mouth hung open and his eyes were so large I thought they would move his visor. My eyes wandered over to the arxur who shrugged, only to be confronted by the human woman. I could see them gathering around in a circle talking about me. That human woman kept pointing at me and moving her arms around I almost thought she was a krakotl trying to take off.
“So wait.” I looked back down to the man who finally decided he could talk. “Wait wait hold up. What are you saying? Is this like a “whenever we are near I will help you” or is it like “I will follow you around” kinda deal?”
My tail flicked as I looked him in the eyes. “I am yours.” I calmly explained to him. “Do the humans not have servants or slaves?” I asked as my scales shivered at the idea of being another predator’s slave.
“Okay, fuck no to you being a slave. No.” The human seemed, angry at that? Was I not good enough to be his?! “We have not had slaves for a VERY long time and not only is it illegal, but FUCK no to that.” His voice raised and I even picked up a bit of a growl. He was angry!
“Fine. I am not your slave, but I still swore to live with you and serve your needs.” I turned to him with a long breath. “Look human. I need this. Please.” The words slowly hissed out of my lips. I hated begging. It felt… wrong. But if he didn’t take me in I would be dead.
He looked at me with one of those eye-bushes higher than the other before he let out a sigh. “Alright. Well. I did want to have an exchange partner. Well. I don’t know if this will be allowed though and I am not going to move in with you. I know that THAT won’t be allowed for sure.” His hands slipped off that helmet of his and he started to rub his yellow head-fur.
The human woman was starting to walk towards us. Ah prophet now SHE was doing that grinning thing. I could see her looking over me like a hunter toying with a pup.
“So!” She walked up to us and stopped. “Jack. You have a nice remote house in the Shenandoah valley area right? Up in the mountains, fairly remote, wooded, nice and private.” My human nodded as he looked over at her. Alright, so his name was Jack. Going to have to keep that in mind.
“Good. I remember you bragging you had a small field big enough to park a shuttle next to it too. Well, this was far ahead of my projected schedule, but congrats! You will be one of the first humans to house a Arxur long term on earth.” She said with a nod. She bared her teeth at him in what I learned was called a “smile,” but even to me it felt a bit too big.
“Al-WHAT!?” He roared s he looked at the woman in surprise. “Wait wait wait.” He held up his hands in front of his chest as he looked at her, then me, then back to her. “You mean you are allowing this?” He asked her before motioning to me with both hands.
“Yes.” She walked towards me and looked me in the eyes. My scales shivered as I looked down at that human’s eyes. They were NOT the eyes of prey at all. Oh prophet the last time I saw eyes like that I was staring into the eyes of a chief hunter. What was this human?
“Alright General Jones. I guess… if you say so. I ain’t gunna go against you. Plus I was planning on this eventually.” Jack looked over at me with a long breath in and out. Prophet he was sounding like prey! He adjusted his gear and walked up to me before sticking his hand out.“My name is Jack Wolf. Yes. That is my family name. Yes, like the animal.”
I looked down at the hand then took it in mine. I had seen some humans do this gesture earlier and felt my tail flick side to side as he moved it up and down. Prophet I hope this means he is taking me in.
“My name is Syle. I will do any-”
The venil shit human stopped me by lifting his hand! Rude!
“No, you will not do ANYTHING I tell you. I will not do that whole slave stuff.” He explained as he looked up at me. “You are my GUEST now. I know I won a bet, but fuck that. No slaves.” He insisted. Well, if the human wanted to waste this prime Arxur then so be it. I was not going to complain about not being a slave!
“By the way, Jones, why did you agree to this so fast?” He asked the, frankly, terrifying lady.
“Simple Mr. Wolf. One, having a Arxur permanently on earth will help us learn quite a bit about them. Second: They insisted we keep her. They called her “weak and defective” and that rarely ends well for Arxur as far as we know.”
My tail hit the ground with a thud. SHIT. Oh thank the prophet that this human was willing to take me! Oh venlil, gojid, krakotl, tiflish, ALL THE FED SHIT was I glad that my plan was working!
“Ah.” Was all the male said. Ah? I almost was executed and all that is worth to you is an AH?!
“Well, I got a spare bedroom and killed a huge buck last season so I got the supplies for Syle.” He rubbed his chin. “And the area I got cleared out for a gun range could be used as a landing zone since its right next to my driveway. Yeah, could work. House is a mess, but they will have to get used to that anyway.”
Jones nodded then looked over at all the others talking to each other. “Well, as the saying goes: Plans never survive first contact with the enemy.” Although I don’t fully consider your kind enemies anymore.” The edges of her mouth turned down as her eye bushes lowered. “We have enough of those as it is. Alright! I will be sending you a bonus and we will work out a stipend for her and you.” She started to walk to the rest of the group.
“Syle. Go to our docs to get a full medical checkup and to work out what you need diet wise. Jack. you two will be getting on a heli together. I know your car is here, but an agent will drive it back to your place for you. We do NOT want to risk anyone seeing Syle in transit. This is now secret clearance level. Got it?” My human moved his head up and down. “Good. Now I need to keep a closer eye on the other three to make sure there are no more… incidents.”
I looked over to Jack who looked up at me. He gave me one of those smiles, put his hand on my back, and gave one of those head-move things. “Alright. Guess you are moving in with me! We can save questions for later. Go ahead to the docs.” He then stepped away leaving me alone.
Oh betterment what did I just get myself into? I hissed and walked over to the medical tent, ready to be poked and prodded to their heart’s content. I had been curious about human dens, and now I was going to be living in one! Bah, hope the f-
I froze and my tail lashed side to side. FOOD. He would feed me and humans ate meat that was not sentient!
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Oh, this was the best thing ever to happen to me! No more worrying about defector execution or what the thing I eat was! I strolled up to that tent. Let them poke and prod me all they want! Peace finally waited for me.
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Oh prophet those needles are big.

dI made a bunch of posts here and in the forums about the Fortification update.
Today I once again had ample opportunity to use the system inside a larger squad. I just wanted to leave some pointers here.
For background this was on Cobalt. Me and my TR outfit Terran Republic Legacy scheduled a "Cleanup Crew" Squad for today around 7PM CEST so Prime Time. The idea I as lead had, was to get behind enemy lines and destroy as many bases as possible and cleaning enemy spawns. Also in services of other factions so they don't have to deal with ghost bases.
First we were fighting on the last half an hour or Amerish, where we did okayish, but nothing to amazing.
We had someone start up on Indar early and they built a base close to NC warpgate between the VS/NC frontline, west of havar physics lab.
Despite having a somewhat full squad with 3ish construction enthusiasts it took us like 5 minutes to be setup properly. during that time the rest did some early havoc by spawning ligthnings skyguarding NC warpgate or just killing smaller bases under construction. Of building the base a majority of the time was slotting modules into all the walls, turrets and terminals. Bottom Line: Allow for preinstallation of modules. Saw some wonderful ideas for UI implementation.
Anyway the real fun started after someone spawned a collossus + amor column on NC warpgate. At this point we had taken out 2-3 bases using lightnings, siege ants (please add stealing cortium from silos for the siege mandibles and yellow yacket) and cortium bombs. I gave the order to get a sortie for rushing the big tank and before I even had time to get my own tank, my squad of 12 people just smashed the entire column to pieces including the golden goose. And in the process saving active TR bastion from being harrassed.
Someone in NC didn't like us ruining their fun and so they started assaulting us. I am talking ground farmers, valks hovering above us (since this was their space and respawning inside easy), infils coming on falshes from nearby bases as well as flail bases hammering us. In short we had to juggle keeping modules up (horray firewall), swap between skyguards and tanks to deal with aiflail bases and all that in the heart of NC territory with no backup from TR (reasonable)
And let me tell you, the 45 minutes we stood our ground in our shack of walls having infantry rain and atillery shells all around us was amazing. Easily the most fun and excitement I had for months and profitable too, for all the repairs, cortium and various kills. 10/10 would do again.
Of course I cannot see how Fortifications really skews the balance in favor of the first successful base. We didn't bother with flails of our own, would we, no assualt base could have setup in the time we would have rained hell on them. Instead we relied on our 12 people manpower, infinite lightnings and an all encompassing fortress shield to become an island of pain against the odds. Sure a more coordinated attack might have succeeded actually in a short period of time, but on the other side we were and open squad with 60% randoms and honestly very "open" base design.
But this isn't how it ended, after letting VS just plow through NC as we kinda did disrupted the latter a bit in that direction, we kinda decided to relocate. So we deconstructed our entire base including the silo before the eyes of our enemies (power move 101) and made a mad dash across the continent with enemies in tow using our last pulls for an amor and support column. We immediately found ourselves north of berjess still surrounded by NC, but got to work with the last suviving ANT carefully being guarded by repair sunderers, skyguards and a few heavy tanks.
Within 10 minutes thanks to cortium drill, we had an ample supply of cortium, a router for berjess and xeno labs plus infinite tanks. I directed my squad to take berjes by just shelling their position (I dunnow whoever had built there didn't bother making more than some walls and a rebirth center on the western edge of the silo range) This is the other extreme, if a base isn't properly considering fortress shields and the like, they get rushed so easily by an amor column.
We had it within minutes during which I already had a router placed in the corner of Xeno Labs far away from any door behind massive cover, right next to the point and called TR leadership and my squad to rush the base and we easily took it. Shame construction is still so expensive, waited since the annoucement for them to lower some prices, but because now that I no longer put this expenditure off, I can actually contribute massively to capture regular bases, protecting and assaulting construction. But just spend my last 10k Certs for it and still lack big walls to cover the Silo and the various items like tunnel, infantry tower or pillbox. And we will probably don't see an uptick in routers being used due to all the hassel they involve.
Oh by the time we captured both bases, a good deal of amor was busy witteling our base down, never bothering to take out the router. A fair trade I would say.
Anyway while our contribution to the Alert Victory for TR was perhaps minimal with just 2 captures and a lot of time spent in NC heartlands, we would like to think that helping VS to become the biggest threat caused NC and TR to team up with TR being able to get ahead thanks to the amazing work of other squads, while we secured the NC flank by kepping pressure on their bases from behind their own lines.
Honestly from what I've seen during that alert, the best base is one behind enemy lines. Build a base on your side of the battlefield and you might secure a capture or protect a position, but in case of the latter you might just as easily overun. Once your Team pushes down a lane, your base becomes irrelevant and you need to relocate. Meanwhile behind enemy lines, you are much less expected (literally had a valkery under fire from my skyguard turn towards me as they tried to safe themselves and didn't realize they were shot in the back) and seen as waste of manpower to assault. And best case your team pushes past you, which can take a while and gives ample opportunity to help with routers and vehicle spawns. Worst case of course if the enemy pushes away from you, but then you can still assault them from an unexptected angle or be much quicker on backcaps and the like.
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But this was just the first alers. After Indar closed, we rushed to Esamir. Where VS had pushed us all the way to jaeger's fist leaving us with a tiny strip on the south. My team rolled out in MBT, Sunderer's and 2 ANTs. We found my new favourtie base building spot on western Esamir and got to work. Our ANT protection paid off as the enemy was trying something in the area either claim the spot for themselves or just setup a defensive line against the rest of TR, but we caught their 2 vanguards and sunderer by suprise and wrecked shop. By the time they came back, we had unloaded the 2 ANTs, built a rebirth center and vehicle pad plus some walls and just kept them at bay with lightning spam. Proving once again my point that construction operates under a somewhat unfair first come, first serve principle. Anyway while my squad just mucked around the base, killing vehicles or putting up more walls, I got into contact with TR leadership and coordinated the use of my router spire. And let me tell you, my spot was ideal as it covered containment site, tapp waystation and south bank. During all 3 captures I had routers up for the entire duration allowing a friendly platoon to just go to town, while we did our thing. Got a lot of positive feedback for that.
Seriously if there should be one item, everyone should be given for free or at least highly encouraged to buy, it should be the Router Spire.
Anyway while we didn't want to get involved in 96+ slaughterfests, we used our ample vehicle supply to rush the traverse and secure it. Afterwards, I got back into contact with TR Command and we devised a plan. Stop pushing direct pressure onto NC, so that they would team up with us on VS and then steal their southern flank, while being distracted. I offered to relocate my base during that cool down period, so we would once again have some routers up to hasten our demise.
Another great reason to built behind enemy lines. Because unlike prepping a base by blowing up generators and the like, unless enemy air is flying reconissance, a base without CC or Skyshield can be safely setup and provide devestating results (see router).
And while due us indulging a bit into recording the base design for future reference and keepsake memory, we arrived a bit to late to provide routers ahead of our last minute NC betrayl, my squad did manage to setup a small base northwest of yimir ruins, to supply routers to both containment side and crashsite and also wreck the nearby NC fortress (remember cleanup crew) on ruins to prevent NC from responding properly. And the BL crashsite router stayed for the rest of the alert and was actively used in both the attack and subsequent defense by friendly platoons.
While I don't mind the hijinks this allows: Having mutliple functioning router pads across different hexes even when the original spire has been killed/replaced, is a bug that should probably be fixed for the health of the game.
At the end, we rounded the Alert off with a mad dash on tapp waystation, which we no longer could use our old base for, because I was the only one with all the core buildings and we had reloacted earlier. Securing it with one second to spare, tipping the control ever so slightly into TR's favor.
While I alreadly left some pointers, here are some new thoughts in no particular order gathered since my last post in this manner.

• The lack of construction outposts on other continents is a bit tragic. I also understand that changing the map to accomedate them would probably not well recieved and even I have a hard time even seeing space to add them without breaking the flow of the map. A possible solution might be to have some "unconnected" construction outpost in empty places of hexes, especially around large bases. They don't contribute territory control (thus not taking away existinig lattice balance), but provide guidance and ressources to create a base in prime locations to assault from or provide additional defenses. Think the towers around bases in Planetside 1, which can be hacked to provide a forward spawn. To take them over you need to have a stable link to the hex/be in control of the hex itself. (The whole point flip/asset handover might also help with the first come, first serve problem, since these particular bases can be taken over and thus not requiring trying to setup your own while in range of flails and orbitals)
• Construction Outpost can have terrible designs. All bases technically can have, but around Construction Outpost, especially Berjess, this can be felt quite pronounced. One lazy silo and you might not be able to wall up the bridges. One good citadel shield building and good luck trying to ever break through from the East. There are a few things, I would like to see here:
  • Have a minimum distance for all construction spawn options around the Control Point. No Elysium Tubes, Command Centers and especially Rebirth Center should be sitting within 50-100 meters of that thing, otherwise just completly enclosing it and making capture hell is way to easy.
  • Have a similiar very small no deploy area for sunderers, loadstars and the like around the control point. Not only to have defenders circumvent the above rule, but also to not have attackers basically make a point indefensible, as they use the skeleton of the base as cover for their own vehicles after smashing through one side.
  • Said no deploy area should also account for flails as with the first rule skyshields might no longer be available.
  • Silos should also have some no deploy areas around construction outpost, to prevent lazy/uninformed players from blocking valubale spots as they just put a silo next to the outpost heart. These no deploy zones shouldn't be massive circles. Just for example so that on Berjes a silo placed to the east always covers the bridge access points.
  • Berjess Overlook often turns into a clog around the walls on the eastern bridge. My suggestion would be to create some ledges for LA's around the perimeter that could be climbed from the bottom of the hill and could be positions to place routers which if blocked with walls on top would leave that flank more easily exposed to sideways fire. Another could be more usable, reliable and especially to new players communicated climb towards the nothern bridge, if only to make a pincer attack on berjess more likely.
• Air Defense is a pain. If you are better off just pulling a bunch of skyguards and leaving them around the base as turrets, instead of bothering with the actual AI turret, you know something is wrong. This mostly comes down to them not being Flak-Weapons, but also small "magazine size". Given they now need a human, they should be much more viable as a defense tool. Make them Flak-Cannons and give them a "magazin" comparable to a skyguard, at least half.
• Inconsistency in the NSO Haywire Ammo. Against base turrets, they apply havoc, against construction turrets they don't. I am not saying all buildings repairs should be disabled by the Linecutter (I mean could you imagine?), but at least have some of the debuff carry over to turrets would be a nice way for them to support an assault.
• In some corners of the map the NDZ or rather their combined blocked area is just excessive. Might do a write up about it later, where to fix what.
• Siege Ant not dealing damage to silos is maybe a bug, if not it should be better indicated and Siege ANT should be allowed to extract enemy Cortium.
• No idea why some buildings have their own cortium reserve, but I hope/would suggest that if a terminal is hacked and stuff pulled, it would drain this reserve and as long as it remains hacked, doesn't refill this reserve so a hacked terminal eventually runs out of juice even if the silo is still up. Might be a bit whacky for CC, but again no idea what other purpose these reserves fufill.
• Allow resupply tower to be fitted with terminal module. just because it fits the theme of the structure in my oppinion.
• increase the heat dissepate module runtime. between the pitifull ammount of shots, overall low fire rate and the fact that without a dedicated engineer, you bleed health under attack, it is just not worth it especially if places farther away from a module pull slot.
• i would love to repeat my point about deployed ants being allowed to serve as a silo replacement at least for walls, turrets and structures (though keeping all terminals and modules unpowered). Not only as a band aid to save a base after its silo went down, but also to allow for ramparts, etc being thrown up on a wide scale in the field. without clogging up the place with silos.
• skyshield module should be available for smaller buildings such as pillbox or bunker. As a tradeoff, add a limit of 2-3 skyshield modules per player into the game. Just because some cozy corners cannot accommedate them if only for the uneven terrain.

Thanks to u/-searchingirl
for mentioning Hunter's oral history
https://localhistory.boulderlibrary.org/islandora/object/islandora%3A25588?solr_nav%5Bid%5D=e941fb4f3ae7ecc9d9ec&solr_nav%5Bpage%5D=0&solr_nav%5Boffset%5D=1&solr_nav%5Bquery%5D=%20
Hunter’s Take
My sister says to me, “I'm so sorry you had to have this case,” … I want to share that I don't feel that way … There were tremendous challenges, unpopular decisions that had to be made …I feel … to some extent proud … that I weathered the storms, as I think a DA should, and did the right thing based on the evidence and I'm … real comfortable with that
Hunter’s Grand Jury Experience
When I announced … the grand jury finished its work and … I had concluded … there was insufficient evidence to bring charges, this disappointed a lot of people.
Hunter’s Last Term
There had been some questions … about whether I should run [for DA] again.
The thinking being, 24-years was enough, but I decided to go again and the Gods may have had this case as a present for me, for making that decision…
Why the case became high-profile

• The [Timothy] McVeigh case and the Nicholls cases were about to begin in Denver, in the spring of ’97… The satellite trucks were stationed hear here. There was a lot of downtime and those trucks are very expensive to run… and Boulder [is only] 30 minutes away. When this case started, … They were up here with their trucks and their microphones.
  
• There were so many videotapes and photos of JonBenet in costumes and outfits. These photographers were selling some of [them] for $50,000-60,000 [each] … the tabloids would spend that in a minute.
  

Reporters were stealing his garbage
I had reporters going through my trash. I finally had to put a sign on the the garbage cans that [read], “if you're walking your dog you can put your poop here” and that stopped some of them from going in.
The Side Shows
When the media got their claws into this one, there were so many side shows.
Larry Schiller
I remember looking out … and here was Larry Schiller, who wrote the book “Perfect Town Perfect Murder” and he's got an entourage of a half a dozen people and he's showing them where I live.
Geraldo Rivera
Rivera was down at the Boulderado, stirring up the public interest … He or one of his people called my [10-year old] daughter … to say you … really ought to persuade your dad to be on our show.
Eller
…Tom Koby, … a very good chief had taken a man from his staff who did not have felony investigative experience and made him the commander of detectives prior to the death of JonBenet … this commander … did not have the instincts to work this investigation in a cooperative, collaborative way … and he believed early on … there was evidence, for example semen on JonBenet’s panties
… the commander focused his attention on the Ramsey's based on his understanding of that evidence or perhaps some other evidence, that I'm not aware of, … and he forgot that … you can't have blinders on or you are not going to turn all of rocks that need to be turned.
…John Eller was the Commander of Detectives and did not have the kind of experience … necessary to deal with this caliber of investigation and he had the opinion that he knew who did it and it's my impression that the department's focus … on the Ramseys to the exclusion of … other evidence.
the final break before Eller was replaced was that in the fall of 1997, Vanity Fair did a piece we've come to know … because of depositions … one of the main detectives [Steve Thomas was the source], … with no homocide experience, … a number of things … appeared in that article that were evidentiary … and … were from … case filings about the ransom note … plus direct criticism of the DA's office.
…one of the deputies was accused of giving one of the defense attorneys a backrub at one of the meetings that involved handwriting analysis.
I was at that meeting, it never happened, but that didn't matter…
Lou Smit saves the trainwreck
…early on … I … put on my staff … a hot shot detective who'd solved numerous kinds of crimes in the Colorado Springs area working in the police department and in the sheriff's office.
... we're getting hundreds and hundreds of pages and evidence. They needed to be cataloged in an appropriate way, so that we could retrieve them. … Lou was able to set up a database out of it.
If it was fibers, we could pull that up as a particular fiber...I wanted to be able to compete with a defense team that had unlimited resources at that time and was doing everything that a defense team could do in this kind of high-profile case.
…Well Lou Smit was referred to in the Vanity Fair article as a delusional old man, because if this was the BPD’s general view of him … Koby and I could not mend that …
[Lou Smit is] probably one of the finest investigators I've ever known… certainly he didn't like being called a delusional old man, but also being disrespected to the extent he was by the Boulder police officers ... and maybe his own following of the evidence, Lou Smit became pretty much convinced and he's been on national TV that it was an intruder.
One of my deputies who is working closely with him … also became convinced or nearly convinced that it was an intruder. …
Koby’s Apology Letter
I had an apology letter from Koby ... I've never released that letter from him saying, it's outrageous, I don't know who did it, I apologize …
Vanity Fair Article Fallout
I tried to counter that Vanity Fair article … [with an] interview with Larry Schiller, … [in the] New Yorker…
I thought it was … a mediocre article. …the agreement in writing was … he would not use that material for his book.
I have that on New Yorker stationary. … I think things were rolling too fast and furious in terms of the high-profile nature of this case …
The Tabloids
… a picture of JonBenet on the cover and [it] didn't really matter … about the content …one of those reporters said to me that every time they had …a picture of JonBenet on the front of their tabloid, they would sell an extra 250,000 copies.
His Philosophy
…prosecutors around the country have said to me … how lucky you are …that your job is putting away people that have interfered with an individuals right to do what they want to do, their peace, and to have hurt them
…I'm honored to have been able to do that this last case … I think that it allowed me to draw deep on what I am as a human being, what I am as a lawyer, to call it the right way, to do the right thing in the face I think of a lot of hollering and yelling by the public that couldn't stand …to think that a little six year-old girl had been murdered and There is yet to be any justice I mean this this does not sit well with any of us …it would have been easy to bring charges but to approach charges when you didn't feel you could make your case would have been a horrible thing to do …
it's an unsolved case we solve unsolved cases in this country you taught any prosecutor he'll tell you he can name cases that have been solved after 10 15 20 25 years and I can think of five or six in our county so we must not give up on that
RDI petty party poopers
…the bumps and grinds of the case and some lost relationships, some real losses … one of my deputies … who I hired straight out of law school, … worked for me for the whole time…[didn’t attend my] retirement because [he said] I'm angry at you about this okay. … I had to make …a tough call but it was the right thing to do. …
you want to the search for the truth and [if] people are not gonna follow the evidence, like some police officers, they need to be gone … they need off because it is a search for the truth, it's a turning of all of the rocks, it's to follow the evidence where it takes you If you think you know where you're going you can't follow the evidence and that's a very important the thing to know…
Hunter’s Family
I'm grateful that [my] family was able to … take this in stride. I never saw them … upset, cry, or anything like that. I mean they didn't … like the publicity, but I'd been a DA from their birth through their very early years and I think they kind of rolled into that.
Hunter’s Final Analysis
…In the final analysis …I don't think we lost evidence …we picked up all of the hairs we picked up all of the fibers you know we took all of the photographs and so I don't think any evidence was lost because of this pissing contest …the public is not interested in paying its’ police department and its’ prosecutors to not get along and to fight with each other…